Meeting with the school

stanleypops66 · 27/03/2025 18:05

Are you a teacher in the school? You don’t seem to be familiar about what schools do.

Schools do not carry out assessments for ADD/ADHD. It’s up to you to go to your GP and seek a referral to a neurodevelopmental service.
school can support the process through completing any forms or providing evidence.

Its also not the schools full responsibility to meet your dc’s emotional needs. If her mental health is of concern then the first port of call is GP or contacting charities that might be able to offer support such as Winston’s wish. That’s up to you as parents to do.

MummytoE · 27/03/2025 18:26

Do the school have any concerns about her behaviour? I'm not sure what you want the school to do tbh?? I think the blurred lines may be between what is the schools responsibility and what is the parents

Serenelyswimming · 27/03/2025 19:26

Hmmm. I’ve also worked in a school where my DD was a child with SEND. DH and I decided he would take lead on ‘parent’ stuff as it did blur lines of my role. But it is tricky-it’s fine when all is fine; it can get difficult when it’s not. A couple of times I came close to looking for a role
elsewhere because of this. Doesn’t answer the specific q but maybe worth thinking about for the long-term…

Freedompassed · 27/03/2025 19:31

All of the above, plus even if your DD does have ADHD, she would not automatically get support above Ordinarily Available Provison.

bossbossbaby · 27/03/2025 19:34

stanleypops66 · 27/03/2025 18:05

Are you a teacher in the school? You don’t seem to be familiar about what schools do.

Schools do not carry out assessments for ADD/ADHD. It’s up to you to go to your GP and seek a referral to a neurodevelopmental service.
school can support the process through completing any forms or providing evidence.

Its also not the schools full responsibility to meet your dc’s emotional needs. If her mental health is of concern then the first port of call is GP or contacting charities that might be able to offer support such as Winston’s wish. That’s up to you as parents to do.

this many differ between areas. Around here the only route to ADHD/ASD assessment is via school referral. There’s a requirement for the school to document any support they’ve put in place as part of the referral.

also our school will provide MH support if a child is struggling, even if it’s for reasons which are outside school.

Oioisavaloy27 · 27/03/2025 19:36

stanleypops66 · 27/03/2025 18:05

Are you a teacher in the school? You don’t seem to be familiar about what schools do.

Schools do not carry out assessments for ADD/ADHD. It’s up to you to go to your GP and seek a referral to a neurodevelopmental service.
school can support the process through completing any forms or providing evidence.

Its also not the schools full responsibility to meet your dc’s emotional needs. If her mental health is of concern then the first port of call is GP or contacting charities that might be able to offer support such as Winston’s wish. That’s up to you as parents to do.

She could be a lunchtime organiser.

Bluevelvetsofa · 28/03/2025 15:05

Apart from testing your child, which PPs have said is not what schools are able to do, what is it that the school isn’t doing that you feel they should? What support do you feel is needed?

Its difficult to comment on the support, given that you haven’t said what you want, or whether they are offering any support and if so, what for.

Rubyupbeat · 28/03/2025 15:10

What on earth is a lunchtime organiser, is it a dinner lady?

Snorlaxo · 28/03/2025 15:13

Dinner ladies are called Lunchtime Supervisors here

Sueyshi · 28/03/2025 17:01

I agree its tricky and its why ive not considered working at my dc school.

Re adhd referral you can go via gp. But i guess the op concern is that for adhd it needs support from outside of home ie school.
I would log everythng
Is she

Behind with leafning

Making silly errors Not finishing the work? Having to be explained to multiple timss Losing her things Having friendship issues as missing cues?

However generally imo school wont do anything to raise issues if its not affecting them (school) so if she doing ok in meeting expectations, not got behaviour issues or they arent worst in class etc they are biding time till she moves to secondary..

Out of dc year 10% have asd or are referred. And nmost of those were not suggested etc by school. Basically if the school/year is unusual yours wont stand out. And eg there was in reception a child still in nappies at 5 and went to sen school at 6 so for us that was the scale of severity etc. We had issues every year with dd with adhd and they didnt seem supportive of adhd. So annoyingly she is a bit out of the fidgety unable to sit still age now at 13 but still very impulsive and lacking concentration and we are probably going to struggle getting the diagnosis.

Something like 25% of kids get extra time in gcses

NoMumLeftBehindLiz · 28/03/2025 17:43

Referral routes for assessment do vary by local authority. In ours the GPs will not make referrals also. I was told self-referral was possible but after months of back and forth emails and screenshots of the LA website the school finally admitted self referrals are only accepted when accompanied by a form the school submitted! I would urge you to google the assessment route for your area so you know 100% the process and then perhaps put exactly what you need from the school in writing so they can respond more clearly.

MissJeanBrodiesmother · 28/03/2025 17:46

1 if you think your dd has asd or adhd then ask what is the pathway for your area and request an assessment via the correct channels.
2 if your dd is sad and suffering with her mental health, you need to contact your gp.

MN2025 · 06/04/2025 14:22

Ace95 · 27/03/2025 17:56

Hello,

I am looking for advice. I have a meeting with the executive head at my DD’s school. She is 8. My partner has already had a meeting and I am now also having a meeting. I work at the school my DD attends and my partner has previously been told that it would be best if he takes the reins on our dd schooling because it’s ’blurred lines’ this is now why I have been asked to have a meeting with my EH to get to the bottom of things.

Before I started working there I had approached the school that I am under the impression that my dd has ADD and I would like her to be tested. I was told that the senco would be in touch to discuss but this never happened. I have asked regularly since she has been in year 1.

I feel as though my daughter is being let down by the school but I find it difficult to vocally put that out there due to fear I could get in trouble because it may be seen as ‘blurred lines’.

Unfortunately, the past few years have been tricky we lost my DD grandfather, a close family friend and I had a miscarriage. All of which my dd has taken quite hard and her mental health has declined. I have approach the school as a parent along with my partner for pastoral support during these times to help her overcome her feelings of sadness yet so far I have yet to see her have any support. This was upheld in the meeting my partner had when he was told that seemed to be the case and no support had been given. I’m just very frustrated.

my question is… what should I ask for going forward in relation to the support I expect the school to give?

As another poster eluded - schools do not carry out these assessments and that you need to speak with your child’s GP. The SENCO is there to support those who are already identified as having special educational needs. They will offer you advice but they cannot arrange a diagnosis for you.

I’m guessing that you work in the school as a cleaner or a lunchtime supervisor/ cook as a TA, teacher or a senior leader would know this…

I do agree though it could be awkward for you as you work at the school and you’re being brought in to discuss your naughty child.