This might be long but I would love advice...
I have never posted on here before but don't know where else to turn for advice.
My 8yo son is in primary school year 3 and on a waiting list for an autism assessment via CAMHS which I am aware can take years. Hi class size is very small and consists of a lot of children that treat him as a target for bullying. He is timid, very sensitive and always really concerned about what others think of him. None of his nursery friends went to the local school but he made a really close friend in his class who was great for him and they did everything together. This friend has now moved schools and my son is totally lost. He has been bullied, his anxiety is so severe that it has led to sleepwalking and OCD and he has regular panic attacks at the thought of going to school. His teacher has been really supportive and he sees an ELSA teacher who has taught him lots of coping tactics and has helped him a lot. That being said the children in his class who are awful to him are not changing and their parents are very difficult people. My son tries his best and has been put in the year above for a couple of subjects because of everything going on.
We applied for him to change primary school via an in-year application in June last year, his friend that left moved there, his nursery friends go there and it is round the corner from my new workplace. We didn't hear anything over the 15 days you are advised to wait so we began chasing the application. Thus followed 4 months of emails and phonecalls and the only response we could get was that 'someone would be in touch'. All the while my sons mental health was getting worse, as were the bullying incidents at school. We then filed a complaint via the councils complaints procedure and received a response. They said that our application had been taken off of the wait list because the school year lapsed and we had not submitted a new year application and that a (very rare) place had come up at the school and been given to another child who lived further away. The response deadline was before the date that we received the letter...!! They said that we should have known to apply again for September start and that our complaint was not going to be upheld..basically thanks and bye.
I therefore proceeded to the next stage of complaints, ignoring the fact that the deadline for this had passed as it was before the letter was even received by us. I said how awful the procedure has been, that we had told one of the people over the phone that we wanted him to stay on the waiting list and that his mental health was so poor that we were having to consider taking him out of school entirely. They replied to say that they weren't taking it any further and again didn't uphold our complaint.
And so our son remains in a horrible state of being and it breaks my heart. There are other schools in the area but he wouldn't know anyone adn the suggestion of it makes him anxious and stressed as he would be starting again alone. So I am not sure it would make any difference to his wellbeing.
It's the fact that a place had come up, that we chased SO MANY times (12+) and that we weren't made aware that our application had lapsed...we had zero communication until the complaints procedure.
I guess I would just like to know what our options are, are any spaces made available in ks2 classes for circumstances like this? Are we able to take this further? I am lost and I can't watch my son deteriorate anymore.
Thank you x