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Classmate gifted my 5yo dd lip balm…

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PinkTigerLily · 27/02/2025 16:23

Dd (5) came home with a gift today. She said it was given to her by a boy (4 or 5 years old) in her class, who insisted it was his, and that she could have it forever. It was a peach-flavoured, colourless lip balm. It has been cold out recently, so I assume his mum gave it to him for helping chapped lips at school. It’s a chapstick but it doesn’t look medicinal… I don’t know. I don’t know this boy, never seen him or his mum at pickups or school events. This is the first mention of him and her ever interacting, too.

Anyway, I’m not sure what this means, or what I should do. I mean, it’s lip balm, something applied to the mouth, so I’m not sure if the boy’s mum would be happy if dd used it. Bit of a weird gift, right?

So, why is this boy giving dd “his” lip balm? Do I let her just accept the gift and use it (after giving it a clean ofc)? Do I keep it in her school bag in case he asks for it back? Do I stalk out him and his mum and ask? Has anything like this happened to you, and how did you handle it?

And thank you for reading this far. I have anxiety and it just peaked a little on a Thursday evening;) And if this boy’s mum somehow happens to see this - please seek me out if you want that lip balm back, or just want to talk.

Classmate gifted my 5yo dd lip balm…
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BoleynMemories13 · 27/02/2025 17:39

You're definitely overthinking. It doesn't mean anything, other than they're 4/5 and they don't see the grossness in this sweet gesture. I've had similar issues with my class (also Year R), catching children sharing lip balm. We just talk about how they're not to share them, due to spreading germs.

Definitely don't let your DD use it, as it's not hygienic. Simply return it to the teacher tomorrow, if you're unsure who this boy is, and the teacher will address it with that child that it's not for sharing. You can have the same conversation with your DD

coxesorangepippin · 27/02/2025 17:39

Overthinking it??!

Er, yeah

Rainbow1235 · 27/02/2025 17:41

Undethetree · 27/02/2025 16:46

Call 101

😂😂

Picklepower · 27/02/2025 17:42

What the fuck, this is so weird. DD brings home random things from her friends all the time. I just leave them in her book bag and they can swap them back as and when they see fit

Picklepower · 27/02/2025 17:43

Why have you added a picture, like we don't know what lip balm looks like 😂😂

YouveGotAFastCar · 27/02/2025 17:43

60 months?!

My son is three and loves to share, he’ll share anything. It’s very normal. I wouldn’t let her use it because we don’t share lip balms (well, me and DS would, but generally speaking) but I’d let her put it somewhere and just away it once she’d lost interest.

InfoSecInTheCity · 27/02/2025 17:45

Dad and her friends were constantly swapping stuff and gifting stuff to each other in reception and yr 1.

If we caught it we'd suggest they swap back, but honestly we probably missed a few. It's nothing to worry about unless they're gifting cash or iPhones level of stuff.

loropianalover · 27/02/2025 17:47

Picklepower · 27/02/2025 17:43

Why have you added a picture, like we don't know what lip balm looks like 😂😂

And letting us know it’s peach flavoured and colourless as if that could have some secret meaning 🤣🤣 OP is NOT well. Her poor DD getting a cute little gift from a new friend and having all the joy sucked out of it by mum.

twoforeight · 27/02/2025 17:47

Picklepower · 27/02/2025 17:43

Why have you added a picture, like we don't know what lip balm looks like 😂😂

At least it wasn’t drugs.

BobbyBiscuits · 27/02/2025 17:47

They're small children. He's clearly a friend and gave it to her to be nice and he had it on him, it's not that deep. I'd be a bit concerned about passing cold sores etc but he wouldn't know about that at such a young age.
What do you think it could mean? A serious proposal of marriage? A deliberate poisoning attempt?
It's nothing sinister is it?

SnoopysHoose · 27/02/2025 17:52

Anyway, I’m not sure what this means, or what I should do. I mean, it’s lip balm, something applied to the mouth, so I’m not sure if the boy’s mum would be happy if dd used it. Bit of a weird gift, right?
Obviously means he is trying to lure her into a cult, jesus wept do you overthink everything? this is edging to madness!!

LostMyLanyard · 27/02/2025 17:54

Are you quite well OP? This sounds like you are seriously spiralling...perhaps seek support from someone in real life.

C152 · 27/02/2025 17:58

He gave it to her because he likes her. I would tell your DD it was kind of her friend to give her a present, but not to use it, because you can't tell if it's been used by someone else. Throw it out if you're worried she'll start using it. No need to do anything else.

thehorsesareallidiots · 27/02/2025 18:00

Jesus, just say "well, that was nice of Boy" to your DD, chuck it in a drawer/the bin and get on with your life. "Overthinking" doesn't even begin to describe what you're doing.

flyinghen · 27/02/2025 18:01

Christ, my kid came home one day with a scrap of card wrapped in tin foil that another kid had "made" for her as a gift. Another day a hair clip, little scraps of paper with notes on. She's constantly coming home with random stuff gifted to her. This wouldn't phase me in the slightest. I'd just hand it back to the teacher and ask to pass it back to the boys mum. Definitely over thinking this one!

Mauro711 · 27/02/2025 18:01

It means nothing at all, young kids do weird things. When I was 5 I gave my neighbour all of my money. No reason, just thought he should have them and I shouldn’t.

twoforeight · 27/02/2025 18:09

flyinghen · 27/02/2025 18:01

Christ, my kid came home one day with a scrap of card wrapped in tin foil that another kid had "made" for her as a gift. Another day a hair clip, little scraps of paper with notes on. She's constantly coming home with random stuff gifted to her. This wouldn't phase me in the slightest. I'd just hand it back to the teacher and ask to pass it back to the boys mum. Definitely over thinking this one!

I’m a teacher for 1-5 year olds and what you describe happens every single day. A scrap of card wrapped in tin foil is a very nice and thoughtful gift.

NC28 · 27/02/2025 18:15

twoforeight · 27/02/2025 17:47

At least it wasn’t drugs.

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Bet he’s laced it with Calpol.

PrancerandDancer · 27/02/2025 18:21

Gently, you are overthinking this slightly.

If they are anything like our house, we have random lip balms all over our house. He probably just grabbed one as a kind gift 🥰

One of the little boys in my daughter's class used to sneak things out of his big sisters bedroom to give to the girls 🤣

Do you have a group chat? Maybe pop a post up saying "one of the boys gifted this to Blossom today, very sweet. But does anyone need it back"

Little ones love giving each other treasures. DD and her best friend gift each other rocks so a lip balm would be an improvement 🤣

FindusMakesPancakes · 27/02/2025 18:22

Sweet little boy wanting to give his friend a present and that was what he had with him. That is what I would think. Beyond that, nothing, given how grungy most kids are. Pretty sure they all share far worse than lip balms.

coxesorangepippin · 27/02/2025 18:23

True love, it's true, undying love

💕

Coconutter24 · 27/02/2025 18:25

At age 5 isn’t this the equivalent of a marriage proposal haha. I probably wouldn’t let my DD use it because it’s been on someone else’s mouth, you could hand it back to the teacher and let her know X gave it to her but you wanted him to have it back incase he needed it or just bin it in a few days

BorgQueen · 27/02/2025 18:26

My 5 year old Grandson regularly gives little gifts to various class mates, a picture, a flower, a stone - it sounds like something he would do because he’s a beautiful, thoughtful little boy. Get a grip.

MummytoE · 27/02/2025 18:26

PinkTigerLily · 27/02/2025 16:23

Dd (5) came home with a gift today. She said it was given to her by a boy (4 or 5 years old) in her class, who insisted it was his, and that she could have it forever. It was a peach-flavoured, colourless lip balm. It has been cold out recently, so I assume his mum gave it to him for helping chapped lips at school. It’s a chapstick but it doesn’t look medicinal… I don’t know. I don’t know this boy, never seen him or his mum at pickups or school events. This is the first mention of him and her ever interacting, too.

Anyway, I’m not sure what this means, or what I should do. I mean, it’s lip balm, something applied to the mouth, so I’m not sure if the boy’s mum would be happy if dd used it. Bit of a weird gift, right?

So, why is this boy giving dd “his” lip balm? Do I let her just accept the gift and use it (after giving it a clean ofc)? Do I keep it in her school bag in case he asks for it back? Do I stalk out him and his mum and ask? Has anything like this happened to you, and how did you handle it?

And thank you for reading this far. I have anxiety and it just peaked a little on a Thursday evening;) And if this boy’s mum somehow happens to see this - please seek me out if you want that lip balm back, or just want to talk.

Jesus Christ it's a lip balm. Move on

ramonaqueenbee · 27/02/2025 18:28

We have had: fidget toys, spinners, little balls that were a craze at one point, slime, origami animals, slime, trainers, goodness knows what else! It's sweet and kind.