Hello,
my son is in year 1 and it seems not a day goes by without him coming home and saying something that truly saddens me. Mostly it’s that he is asking children in the playground to play and they are saying no (one boy in particular who seems to be quite socially confident), or sometimes he will try to talk to him and he will ignore him. He said now he waits by the sports shed in the playground for someone to come and play with him and once it was the whole playtime. I tried talking to the school but they said they don’t observe this and he is playing nicely.
so today I walked into his room and saw him pulling his own hair. I asked him about it and he told me another particular boy “made him pull his hair” upon getting more info he said this boy tells him to pull his own hair at home time (they sit on the same table at home time) if this is true I’m totally heartbroken and I don’t think it’s a detail he could make up.
he is august born and I think has less social confidence, they have the social advantage, and this situation isn’t helping his confidence at all. I worry that the general feeling in the classroom is becoming that he is the boy without friends who can be picked on.
my boy has some other difficulties (tics) but I don’t think they are noticeable at school.
his self esteem is really low. He’s started saying things like he’s “ugly”. My boy is five years old and I’m heartbroken for him. He is the most wonderful kind hearted boy to others.
he doesn’t seem to have a kid he classes as a close friend. To be honest he’s fallen out with one and the other one is friends with the socially confident boy, and will be leaving at the end of year 1 anyway. There’s only 19 kids in his class anyway so there’s not a large pool of potential friendships to be had.
I’ll of course speak to the school about this latest incident about the hair but every fibre of my being just wants to move him for a fresh start. There’s a school down the road that’s supposed to be a good school and we know a family there with a boy in year 1 who he gets on with. But I worry it’ll just be the same elsewhere and even worse perhaps starting as a new kid when friendships are already established.
what would you do??