Hi first time poster here!
My question is should I move my sons school?
Just abit of background about my son he is a boisterous, sensitive and kind boy but still hasn't mastered playing other childrens games and having a meltdown if he loses which we are working on currently. He's 5, August born so youngest in the year. Teacher talks about maybe adhd or could be imaturity for his age group but also hard to diagnose at this point.
My son is currently in school 1, the school is small and outdated and his year 1 class he's currently in contains 18 children altogether but only 5 boys. My husband went to this school hence the choice, the grounds are lovely which swayed me as it looks like the perfect primary school but as time goes on something doesn't feel quite right, I feel like he maybe being the scape goat to the other children which is labeling him as the "naughty one" he is mischievous but I don't want him to be told so much he starts beileving it, i also think maybe there isn't enough boys in the class to mix it up abit. Also my son has bad hearing not bad enough for a hearing aid but still not great and also doesn't have the best speech so I feel this puts him at a disadvantage too. School 1 teachers are helpful and advised trying a playdate to help with social skill but I don't agree with some unhealthy habits a couple of the boy parents lead so Im finding it hard to encourage the friendship. Do we need playdates at five years old I also feel it's too young? But on top of that some of the boys in his class will be going to different Comprehensive (were right on the boarder)
I'm thinking about sending to school 2, I went to this school myself. It contains 2x year 1 classes one class of 25 and another class which my son would go into of 19 boys and 6 girls. Altogether its a more put together school they do school trips also whereas school 1 doesn't. The school has recently been built so very modern.
School 2 is also the main school leading onto comprehensive and makes up just under half of the kids in comprehensive compared to school 1 which also lead onto the same comp.
School 2 also has merged classes with reception/y1 and yr5/6 are merged, and as my son is the youngest in the year I feel may help better with settling as there will be younger ones and he wouldn't be the youngest,which also may help academically too.
Also I feel like school 2 may better prepare him for life with more people around him and also help him enjoy his child life.
the concern I have is maybe having more boys in the class would he be more at risk at being bullied? Would he be forgotten about as the class is bigger? Am I going to ruin his life if I move him? And what if I do and it all goes horribly wrong
I'm completely torn as in what to do, we don't have many family members around for support or advise
Or am I completely overthinking and just leave him as he is but risk him struggling friendship wise later on in comp.