Does this sound like dd1 is being bullied or am I putting 2 + 2 together and getting 5?

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very shy, sensitive dd1, aged 5, is hopeless at socialising, am trying to get her to agree to a playdate but she is not keen

anyway, she said the other week to MIL "I liked it today as people played with me in the playground instead of ignoring me" ()

and then one day she said that X had hit her in the stomach but "it was ok as we were playing putting dd1 in prison"

then yesterday she was pushed onto the floor, again "playing prison"

dh asked her who plays this game and she says she is the only prisoner but it is good as then "people play with me"

is she getting picked on do you think and only likes this game as she feels wanted?

dinner lady sent the girl yesterday inside and told her off so it seems more than play to me BUT I may be over reacting (it has been known....)

I know the feeling. My dd has an issue with some twins in her class. they used to be her friends, then they kind of drifted apart and she made friends with a new girl, then they "stole" her friend from her (the way she described it ), and although sometimes the 4 have played all together they have been saying this week that they don't want her with them, that they're not her friend . my poor baby

i want to scream too OO sometimes

oh no

do you think it is just girls?

dh asked dd1 if X was still her friend and she said no, Y says I can't play with her anymore [heart breaks]

i hate that

when they say "you cant play with XXX shes my friend"

boys dont do that. they just get on with it

the boys just seem to maraude (sp?) about in a big group play fighting together at the school

dd2 can be mean, I hope she is not a bully in the making, she is mean to her best friend and says "go away" and her little friends face just drops...

she is v popular so maybe she knows she can get away with it, whereas dd1 is needy and can't

have to go and do some work now, thanks all

Boys do it as well. Maybe not as much but my two DSs have both been in these kind of situations.(both as victims and 'perpetrators').