Am I being being sensitive?

[ariaknox]

My son is 5 in year 1
Since he has gone to year 1 I feel like his new teachers find me incompetent
A few times I have forgotten to log his reading on the app and have got messages saying that I'm not doing enough
We read together constantly I just don't have time or the first thing I think of is not to log it in an app
We had a death in the family recently and had to take him out for a week and since he's been back I've been ignored and told off a few times
I forgot to return his reading book on time and received a short message from his teacher to return the book asap then upon collecting my son that day she stopped me and said "I need his book in on Monday" I said of course and apologised but she didn't say anything and pretty much closed the door in my face.

I just feel crap and feel like they are judging me

I work full time have a 2 year old and obviously run the home with the death recently everything has been even more crazy and hectic then normal

Feel like I'm not doing enough for my family and the teachers are being insensitive and cold
His reception teachers were great, friendly and kind we never had any issues however the new teachers just seem to look past me if I stop to ask something or tell them anything they're always brushing me off

Am I being too sensitive

I think you probably are being a bit sensitive which is understandable given what you've had going on. Also I kind of get their point - they don't know you read all the time, so if the log isn't done and books aren't returned and he's out of school for a week it might come across as you aren't that committed.

I agree, it’s understandable you feel that way with everything going on. Try setting a daily/weekly reminder (whatever the requirement is) in your phone to log reading in the app so you don’t forget, same with returning books and anything else that might come up. I honestly don’t remember anything without a reminder these days...

You have every right to be feeling sensitive and the teacher should realise. Presumably they know that you have suffered a bereavement? Don't let them make you feel crap, remind them of your circumstances. I think shutting the door on you was really rude. The teacher sounds like a bit of a bully, some parents never listen to their kids read.

I think you are going to have to be more focused on getting stuff done as they ask. Set reminders, don’t try to fill stuff in the morning do it at night, make sure all his books are where they should be when you have finished with them.

To be blunt they aren’t interested in you they are interested in your. I’ve forgotten to fill in the reading book once and library books once. I kicked myself and prioritised doing it properly next time. I now have reminders stuck on the fridge.

I am sorry to hear about your bereavement.

To you this is personal but to them it's professional. Imagine if all, or a large number of, the other parents also forgot to fill in the log and return books; it would be incredibly frustrating and exhausting.

In some schools it happens all the time. Those parents also don't give a shit or need to be managed/supported into it.

It's better to support and be understanding with an engaged parent that's having a hard time, than making them feel crap and add those their already shitty plate. Good relationships between parents and schools are vital .

Does the class teacher know about your bereavement?

If not I'd let them know either in person or via email.

"I just wanted to let you know we've been through a bereavement and I know I've been dropping the ball on some things, but we are slowly getting back to normal and I'll do my best to rectify things. Thank you for your understanding and support".

If they do know, then maybe remind them in a similar worded way.