School travel

[Jasminekaur]

Hi was wondering if anyone could help me. My children live with me and see dad every other weekend. Holidays are spilt. We agreed in court that he would drop them off Sunday at a certain time. He’s now trying to get me to agree that the children be dropped off by him that’s a 45/1 hour drive before school… I live 3 streets away this isn’t about the children he’s tried to contact cms and claim petrol money from me due to contact .

hes saying that if I don’t agree will go to mediation but was domestic therefor we had to go court

how do I say no plus they go breakfast club twice a week on Monday and Tuesday . So that means that will be disputive as one week they will go and on not then they still have to go Monday after school club either way

What harm would it do the children being dropped off by their father?

I don't think you really have a valid objection (and I suspect if your ex has to go back to court, his suggestion will be accepted).
Lots of children routinely have that sort of journey to school.

Going to breakfast club in alternate weeks is really not going to be disruptive. Particularly as it's tied to an existing occurrence (visiting dad in alternate weeks)

Do you think travelling a hour wouldn’t be disruptive

Is he doing this to reduce maintenance by having another overnight? Would it take him into a lower maintenance band? And then he’d claim for petrol as well right?

Yes he doing to lower cms , he’s already tried to claim cms petrol they decline said salary is high .

What a surprise!

On the other hand it potentially means you can go away for weekends :)

Abusers don’t tend to like their exes having a life so maybe say hey, you know what, that’d be great because I’ll get more freedom and can also go away with hunky Mike/Pete/Joaquin and you might find he changes his tune ;)