Reception: How well do you get along with the other mums?

[Jzee]

or has it been hard to make connections?

our school is lovely. The mums are fab. But when ds1 was little (14 now) It was really hard. Depends greatly. Dds school now is small closely knit village school think that helps.

Whats the matter?

Its takes time

I knew some of the mums in nursery and they never spoke but now in the reception line up we chat and some of us go out for a nights out.
But it took a lot of forcing myself to make the effort which I sometimes could`nt be arsed .

With dd, who is now y6 I never felt I clicked with the other mums particularly. Chatted etc but would never have felt like socialising with them.

Ds is in reception now and it is a completely different experience. Loads of mums I feel an affinity to(or is that with?).
I like spending time with them in the park or in the pub!

Varies hugely from class to class I guess.

I feel I have to make a real effort with them and that it's not coming naturally if you know what I mean?

I know what you mean sometimes its like banging your head against a brick wall

Some of the people I am friendly with now at school I did`nt really speak to 3 years ago when ds was in reception .It just happened (like when I took dc to a party or a playdate)

Don`t give up

Thanks Wildhorses - so there is hope!

what are these mums like
do they speak to you?
do you have to speak them first?

Ours are fine, you get the odd one or two (you get that everywhere) but, on the whole they're a nice bunch.
I think to start off with it is a lot of effort but after a while it gets easier and you find the people that you most connect with and invariably there will be some that you get along with better than others.

Depends where you live imo. I live in a very cliquey village however I have made my own circle if friends and whilst I can't say I will ever love pick up time, I have enough people I like to have a chat too. I must admit I am guided by my DD I mainly talk to the mums that have dds that are friends with my dd - but they are fab.

I have maybe a couple of people I chat to, the ones I really liked have either moved their dcs to different schools or started working so I don't see them anymore.

All the mums seem nice in dd1s reception class, and there are a few I talk to more than others, get on well with etc. But I can't see it moving on from there for a while really. Maybe when they are older and we have known each other for longer.
dd2 starts there this september so it will be interesting to see how the two classes compare. I will know a lot more mums in dd2s year already, so that should help !
Keep being pleasant and friendly, and don't worry too much,

i talk to lots of mums from ds2's reception class(whos children are in ds2's class-you know what i mean)but i have known alot of them since he was at pre-school from the age of 2.it wasnt like that when ds1 started in reception-all the mums knew each other as they had older children at the junior school so i was an outsider.

i think it was just the fact that i had to drop the older 2 off at school at 8.55 then hang about outside the nursery till 9.15 with ds2,so i just got chatting to other parents cos we were bored.

I got along ok with my dds mums, but when my ds started the following year i couldn't find anybody to identify with. In the end I got sick of the pettiness of who would and would talk to you. Bearing in mind that I had a parent walk away when I was in the middle of a conversation with them. I was just glad to move on and get out of that situation.