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Daughter not settling at school

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Amelia1993 · 09/10/2024 21:41

Just after a bit of advice/reassurance from anyone who’s been in the same situation.

My 4 year old (birthday was in August so one of the youngest) started school in September after being at nursery since a year old.

Seemed to be going really well. She always got ready and walked to school very enthusiastically and ran out at the end of the day smiling. Not a sign of any problems at all.

Had parents eve on Monday and the teacher says she’s very anxious, completely avoids interaction with any adults to the point they didn’t know if my daughter understands what they’re saying to her (she absolutely does). This has rocked my partner and I as this is totally unlike her. She’s never been the loudest in the room but I would never describe her as anxious, a little shy to begin with maybe but not unusual for a 4 year old. It sounds like she’s struggling to make friends as she had a best friend at nursery who has gone to another school. My daughter blurted out during a melt down last night that she missed her friend and she keeps looking for her at school but can’t find her, which broke our hearts.

Just sounds like she’s really struggling to settle and make any friends. The class has 30 kids and 3 forms in the year group so 90 of them on the playground too which I imagine is overwhelming. Not sure how best to support her to make friends when we aren’t there to guide or help. Teacher can only do so much with 30 other kids to deal with!

Any ideas much appreciated. Even considered taking her out of school and trying a smaller school but obviously don’t want to rush anything.

Thanks for reading all this!

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Flubadubba · 10/10/2024 15:29

Did the teacher have any advice on helping her to integrate more?

There are a few kids in DD's class who are like this. The teaching staff and teaching assistants have been amazing with helping them to gain confidence- you can see the effect already (one of DD's friends was in this category and sounds similar to your DD. No othwr experience as DD is the oldest in the year, and that really makes a difference at this age!)

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