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Feeling bad

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alaskaandmichael · 12/09/2024 18:11

My sons class has just sat the kent test. My son stated he was the only one of about 15 in his year (it's a small school). He doesn't want to go to a grammar school, so he didn't want to sit the test either. I wanted it to be his choice, and I rolled with. English isn't his strongest subject. His writing isn't great (not that it means anything). I didn't want to push him. Now I feel bad for not putting his name down for it and letting him try... if he didn't try, he'll never know, but if he did try and he failed it, he would be absolutely devastated that he failed and would call him self dumb and stupid. I would've been proud of him either way... does this make me a bad mum for not signing his name anyway to even tho he didn't want too

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LetItGoToRuin · 13/09/2024 09:26

He didn't want to sit the test.
You didn't want to push him.
He didn't prepare for the test.
English / writing is not his strength.
If he had sat the test and failed, he would have been devastated.

I can't see any problem with your decision. Do you?

paularan · 13/09/2024 09:37

alaskaandmichael · 12/09/2024 18:11

My sons class has just sat the kent test. My son stated he was the only one of about 15 in his year (it's a small school). He doesn't want to go to a grammar school, so he didn't want to sit the test either. I wanted it to be his choice, and I rolled with. English isn't his strongest subject. His writing isn't great (not that it means anything). I didn't want to push him. Now I feel bad for not putting his name down for it and letting him try... if he didn't try, he'll never know, but if he did try and he failed it, he would be absolutely devastated that he failed and would call him self dumb and stupid. I would've been proud of him either way... does this make me a bad mum for not signing his name anyway to even tho he didn't want too

Other comments may dress things up differently but you're feeling bad because you didn't try and you didn't encourage him to try.

Next time, make the other decision.

PerkyShark · 14/09/2024 11:47

No. You have to be in the top 25% of the cohort to pass. Most kids in Kent will have at from the very least a lot of help and practice at home to the more extreme 2 years of tutoring and boot camp in the holidays etc. If your son isn't very bright and he didn't want to do the test he was never going to pass.

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alaskaandmichael · 14/09/2024 15:20

PerkyShark · 14/09/2024 11:47

No. You have to be in the top 25% of the cohort to pass. Most kids in Kent will have at from the very least a lot of help and practice at home to the more extreme 2 years of tutoring and boot camp in the holidays etc. If your son isn't very bright and he didn't want to do the test he was never going to pass.

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Thank you.. it's not that he isn't bright... he learns well but with English and writing isn't his strongest points.

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