Down about school start

[mumof2raisingchaos]

Hello I'm just wondering if anyone else has ever felt or dealt with feeling a little blue about the starting of school. So my son is starting school next week & I'm very down about it all.. when he went to preschool I was anxious but excited for him & it was all very positive. Please be kind I know it may be silly & I'm certainly not showing him I'm down, it's nothing but excitement & happy vibes when we speak about his school start & him being such a big boy! However it's far from how I am feeling & would like to know if anyone else has felt like this or feeling it? I don't deal well with my babies growing & me & my partner forever laugh at some of my silly emotional moments when a milestone occurs! 😂

Yes it was the end of an era, spending lots of time with them.

It's a big change and it's normal to feel emotional at such times. Don't be too hard on yourself.

Soon you will probably get caught up in all the school stuff - jumble sale, fete, playdates, meet the teacher, maybe even helping out with reading in class - and it will be a little community that you and your DS will be a part of together.

@FrenchandSaunders yes that's exactly how I feel! Like all our time is going to be taken now & I'm going to miss so much

@zaxxon thank you, I really hope so.. I know it's going to be amazing for him & he's so ready.. unfortunately I'm just not ready 😅

That's understandable ... One good thing you can do for yourself is make friends with the other mums at drop-off and pick-up. Seeing them every day can be really supportive.

I was a wreck when my eldest started school, I really tried my best not to show it but I really couldn’t hold it together. That first day was awful but then you get used to it. I was better by the time my youngest started, everything is easier the second time, but the first time any milestone happens I am not in a good place. It may sound silly but I just try and think of how difficult the next milestone will be and that it’s not that bad. For example when she started Primary “at least she’s not leaving Primary” When she’s leaving Primary I will just focus on “at least she’s not leaving home!” Don’t know what kind of a mess I’ll be when she leaves home!

Yes! DD left primary this year and I was more emotional than I thought I would be. Seeing her in her secondary uniform I’m so proud and excited for her but I just don’t understand where time has gone!

Hi OP, my 2 DDs are 9 and 6 and tbh I hate back2school even now. I just want them at home! I feel you with them starting school after the pre-school years. 🫂

I was so emotional, I went home and washed all the windows.

When my first child was ready to start school I felt really down. I'd been a SAHM and I felt like I was losing him. Looking back it seems silly as we still had lots of time together and he really enjoyed school, but the few weeks before he started and the first month of actual school I really did feel terrible. At the school gates lots of mums were 'looking forward to getting rid of them' but I just felt a black cloud over me every day for a while. I really struggled with not knowing everything little detail about his day.

Strangely it wasn't so bad with my next child even though she was my last. I suppose I had got used to one child being at school so it didn't feel like such a big thing to me, although obviously it was to her.

My children are older now, my youngest is just going into year 11 and I feel still always feel a bit down at the end of the summer holidays.

Its natural to miss them, and feel a bit sad about them growing up.

It helps me to rationalise by remembering that her ultimate aim as parents is to create happy, independent adults.. so we need to have these milestones to do this.

School is 35hrs a week at most... or 1300ish hours a year. Its only a small part of their lives... there is still plenty of time for fun... and watching them grow is amazing!!

Good luck for your school start.

I hate my kids growing up. It literally breaks my heart so I get it. My youngest starts reception next week and it make her seem so grown up. Time to have another baby I think :)

I've got one starting Reception and one looking at universities (with another in the middle!) Perimeno wreck! 😄