Hi - I have 3 daughters my eldest being in Year 4 (age 9) at an academy primary school. I am a mum who is open and talks to my daughters about body parts, women things, growing up etc. A month ago we received from the school PSE lesson plan which entailed what would be covered in this term which detailed - having a baby, girls & puberty.
I’ve collected my daughter from school this afternoon to be met with the conversation she had learned about sex in lesson today, when asked what sex was she replied ‘when a man puts his ps in a girls v*a hole - they are naked when they do this’. To me, the norm to start learning about intercourse at school is usually year 6+. I had phoned the receptionist on our way home to discuss this and was met with ‘The letter said the topics covered are having a baby and girls and puberty. So discussing sex ties in with having a baby.’ Which I feel it was not clarified clear enough and this is an unjustified excuse - something like this should have been clearly stated to parents to make an informed decision to either withdraw from the lesson or have the opportunity to discuss with our kids beforehand.
Please can I gather personal opinions/experiences? They were told to not discuss this with siblings however of course my daughter has now spoken about this in front of my 6 and 3 year old.
Is this highly inappropriate or am I just completely out of touch?