Hostile neighbour working as lunchtime assistant at dd's school

[MumKZN]

Hi, I have just found out our neighbour is working as a lunchtime assistant at my daughter's school. DD told me she started few days ago. I am pretty relaxed otherwise, but this has me unsettled, as we had a falling out with this neighbour 3 years ago, due to multiple issues but the top one being- asking people (plumbers etc) coming to our house about us (been told by the handyman himself) and installing a camera on the shared driveway capturing our porch and garden (lights of camera will turn on and start recording when we will open our patio doors). Since then the he has been hostile with us, badmouthing about us and acting petty. Long story short, we have completely ignored him to let sanity prevail this far. But now his wife working so close to my daughter has unsettled me. Should I raise this concern or am I being paranoid.

School will not become involved in an issue outside school. It is not their business and they are not concerned with her conduct outside school.

It's for an hour a day and she will probably have very little contact with your daughter.

I'd raise it personally. I wouldn't be asking for any action against her (sounds like it's her husband that's the problem anyway?), but I'd want the school to be aware of the backstory in case she treats DD differently.

Have the neighbours ever been confrontational or nasty directly to your DC? They'd have to be pretty stupid to start something in their work place that might get them dismissed. I'd leave it, you'll sound paranoid if you bring it up and then less likely to get support if anything does come of it. I think its a vanishingly small chance they'd do/say anything because no matter how people are at home or as neighbours they tend to not want to lose their job by showing that in the workplace.

I think it makes a lot of sense and has given me some clarity. I will keep it in the back of my mind and be mindful about it at this point, also don't want DD to be involved/aware of these kind of issues. The neighbour has never been confrontational otherwise, and the wife seems not to have caused/created any trouble. Thank you lovely ladies for bringing insight for me into this issue

I don’t think she will have much contact with your DD or be able to find out information about her. If the wife has never caused any trouble she could be nice / normal and it might just be her husband who is a weirdo.

It might help her to be away from him if he is more generally controlling. She could be getting her ducks in a row.

Yes.

Id want it on record/noted ahead of any nonsense.

Separately he sounds bananas but its not clear the wife has done anything she may be another long suffering "victim" of his.

So I'd report but try not to give it too much headspace.

What exactly are you going to raise and with who?

If you contact the school to complain about someone they have employed because you have a personal issue with them you will be the one who looks odd.

If she starts asking your DD questions at school then you complain.

It may also be that the school doesn’t employ her directly. Some catering services (including the staff) are bought in.

If someone had a personal issue with my husband and then decided to inform my employer about that issue I would be extremely annoyed about it. My husband has his own mind and I do not control what he does and he also has no influence on my ability to do my job.
If you report her for something her husband has done and she ends up losing her job then you are going to have issues with both of them not just her husband.