what would you do if....

[bigTillyMint]

Your children went to a holiday sports course run at a local private school, and one (or two) of the other children on the course was rude and unkind to them and the coach didn't notice what was going on?

When I went to pick them up yesterday, my daughter who is NOT under-confident burst into tears and said she wasn't enjoying it. After watching the last 5mins, I could see why - a very precocious girl was most unpleasantly trumpeting how wonderful she was at everything, and could she demonstrate, etc, etc. My DD told me afterwards, that when she was paired with the girl, each time she had missed a shot, etc, the girl hug her head, sighed, etc. Making my DD feel like a complete loser

Do you think I should say anything to anyone when I take them today?

Mention it to the coach and ask if your DD can be paired with another child for activities today.

You don't think that would be too fussing? The coach seemed a really nice gentle soul, but I don't think it even hit his radar! (and there were only about 12 children!)

Yes, speak to someone there. There might be a perfect pair for the arrogant child and for your DD. No point in spending all that dosh just to make her miserable

And if nothing improves take her out. I had to do that with my eldest at a holiday club one year. He was only 6, there were too many big kids, not enough supervision and he was simply terrified. I told them exactly why he wasn't going and took him away. But I did have an alternative for childcare. Difficult if you don't.

I don't think it is too fussing if your DD is genuinely unhasppy and not enjoying her experience there. And, like Orm, I'd take mine out if it persisted, no point making them spend their holiday being unhappy.

Speak to someone-it is not fussing. She is going for a fun holiday experience and it is not fair that it is being ruined for her.

yes tell him definitely, was it her first day yesterday? sometimes children can take a day or two to get used to them.

I don't want her to be unhappy - the class was meant to be fun! It is only an hour and a half long and her younger brother is there too, he loved it yesterday, apart from geting into an argument with the obnoxious girl - he is very good at sports for is age and has no truck with worrying about what others think of him!
I don't think she was with her all the time. The girl had come with a friend and was wanting to be paired with her, I think. Maybe I should suggest that to the coach, as all the other children seemed nice?

I think it would be fussing, tbh. Your dd has to learn how to deal with people like this, they will crop up all the time and I think you'd come across as interfering if you requested she not be paired with her.

I don't think that it is fussing when it is a course that is optional and you are doing for fun.She doesn't know the girl she is paired with and she is being very intimidating, I would call it bullying.Your DD has the right to be able to take part without being made to feel small. She may well be able to deal with it with experience, but to start with she needs some help. I could deal with that sort of behaviour now but I couldn't have done it as a child.

You said your dd was not underconfident. Having got this other's girl's measure now, can you not arm her with ways to deal with this girl? And tell her to complain herself? Or is that beyond your dd - sorry couldn't see her age. My ds, who is not yet at primary never says anything, and I am gently trying to encourage him to speak to his nursery worker if he gets upset.