Would you intervene on the school residential?

[SoGladofYou]

DC is 10 and off on a 3 night school residential after half term. Room allocations to be announced on arrival.

A few weeks ago, in preparation for the trip, the children were asked to list three children they would be happy to share a room with. They were told that they would be unlikely to get the complete three that they had listed but that they should get at least one. DC has since fallen out in a big way with one of the three they listed, and the situation seems to have become quite unpleasant and unlikely to be resolved soon. I’m not sure whether the teachers are aware.

I am concerned that they might end up in a room with the unpleasant former friend. Should I step in and let school know that there might be an issue if they end up in this situation, or should I keep schtum? In which case DC would potentially (a) have a horrible time, or (b) develop some resilience?

I don’t know what to do for the best. Opinions from the mums of other 10 year olds would be welcome.

My son is 10 and yes I would say something to the school , a school residential should be something he looks forward to not worried about .

It would depend on the nature of the falling out, but from the limited information, I would be inclined to say nothing to the school. Hopefully it will all become resolved by the time they are away. How many children per room? (My 3 children are now teens+.)

I would have a word with school. It could cause problems for the staff if they do share, easier to avoid the conflict. My 10 year old won't even go on residential because of nasty peers. Kids can be very cruel

A big fallout - yes let school know

I don't think just letting school know there has been some friendship issues counts as 'intervening'. I would see that as you demanding your child be moved and throwing a temper tantrum if he wasn't. Giving them the information to make an informed decision is sensible and they should know anyway if there has been some unpleasantness so they can keep an eye out at school.

Hi Op

I'm in the same boat as you.

I am going to ask the school to allocate different rooms if possible. I don't feel its that unreasonable to ask for this.

The rooms will have been allocated and it won’t be a simple move so only say something if it’s absolutely necessary. One reasonable move collapses the whole system like a house of cards and it takes hours to reorganise.

This 👆🏻It’s a nightmare trying to work out the rooms so that everyone is with at least one friend. One change leads to a whole succession of changes.

Thanks for all your comments. I have alerted DC’s teachers that there is a problem. Up to them what they do about the room allocation.