My sons teacher (yr 3) who is very rigid and unliked by teachers and pupils. There have been multiple complaints. Children refusing to go to school because they dislike her and think she dislikes them. She is always telling my child off. She recently disciplined my child for something he hadn't done on the say so of another child. When we asked why she didn't seek my son's perspective, she refused to engage. When raised the deputy - as the teacher refused to engage - deputy confirmed teacher should have spoken to both parties. And agreed to follow up with the teacher.
My son has ADHD and ASD. How this appears at school is talking too much, needing to move, high anxiety, struggling to process information quickly. She gets frustrated with him as he takes too long sometimes to complete writing work and sometimes doesn't contribute to class discussion as much as she wants.
Today kids on the table were saying she is a rubbish teacher, that they hate her and that she hates them. My son said - she is not always kind. One of the kids reported his comment to the teacher.
My son was taken outside by the teacher. Asked what he said. He confirms he said what the child said he did - my son repeated it.
Teacher tells him he is rude and disrespectful. My child apologises and said he is sorry for being rude and disrespectful and he should not have said what he did. She then says but are you sorry and he says yes. She says but are you really sorry or did you mean it? He then says yes but sometimes you aren't kind. She says give me one example of when I've not been kind. And he stutters and doesn't reply quickly (he has slow processing) and then she says - see I am not unkind you can't me a single example. I would not have thought any child in my class would be so thoroughly rude and disrespectful.
I think he should absolutely have been told off - told that what he said was unkind and unnecessary. I imagine it hurt her feelings. And he is sorry for that. She also has been incredibly unfair to him on multiple occasions and has never recognised this.
I feel she focused on him not his behaviour, "he is rude and disrespectful" and goaded him/ tripped him up by asking repeatedly if he was really sorry. I'm not sure how that was going to end usefully. It seems to me like a disproportionate response and I wonder if she took out her feelings about the situation/ complaints on him.
I wish to have a convo with the school about this. Not the teacher. She just stares and repeats her stance. No dialogue.
But I wondered what others would do and whether I am over reacting?