Incident with five year old son at school

[Lilysun]

First time poster here and need some thoughts. My child is in reception. Has struggled to make friends but getting there. A few months ago he mentioned a boy walked into his cubicle whilst he was trying to go to the toilet. I spoke to the teacher about it who was reassuring and said the child has special needs but they will address. This week the child has pushed my son in the playground. And today my son came home saying that the child walked in while my son was on the loo and urinated in the same loo while my son was on it. My son was very specific using all the correct terminology and has basically been urinated on.

Naturally I am really concerned. I noticed this child was being very clingy with my son recently, getting in his face and pushing him
around. My son was politely but firmly saying “no” and stepping away. But this latest incident is really worrying me. I’ve spoken to the school who say they’ll speak to his parents. I really feel
for the little boy and his parents as obviously he has challenges But I need some advice on where I go from here. How do I support my son and how do I take this up with school?

I'm so sorry this happened to your son. Another child urinating on your son should be a big safeguarding concern for the school and they need to take measures to safeguard your child/ other children. I'd call NSPCC advice line as this is a kind of child to child abuse.

What the pp said

Safeguarding written all over it

Sorry but why would this be reported? I had hoped to ask for some advice and thoughts from fellow mums as ever since this happened I have been absolutely devastated. Is that not what this platform is for? I’m not sure if there has been a similar thread but if you could link it here I’d be grateful.

NC for this.

OP, I think the previous thread someone mentioned was mine - something similar happened to my child. You don't want to see it, it was awful as a load of posters decided to jump on and bully me, accusing me of being a pervert making up the story for kicks. It really happened and I actually thought about harming myself that night, as I was so upset by what happened and not being believed.

Don't engage with the troll hunter assholes, call NSPCC. They will believe you and you need expert advice.

Mumsnet is a weird place!

I work in a school and while these things are rare, we certainly have a fair amount of inappropriate behaviour in toilets. Obviously, the children don't understand why it's completely inappropriate and more often than not think it's funny. That's why adults work together to help children learn. Sorry this happened to your son op. As an interim measure you could ask that the other child is not allowed to go at the same time as your son or that your son can go with a buddy.

And sorry to hear about your bad experience @Goatlovesoats . I hope you got some useful advice and that you're feeling in a better place

Don't they have locks on the cubicles?

Ay minr and my dc's schools they had those locks, which can be opened by an adult wtha coin

I understand you’re in shock OP but this isn’t something I’d turn to mumsnet for support on as you just don’t know what trolls will show up.

Contact NSPCC and keep in communication with the school about what their procedures will be.

It's all well and good for the school to speak to the boy's parents, but the parents aren't present when these things have occurred IN SCHOOL.

Op, you need to push the school hard on what changes they are implementing to stop this boy targeting your son.

Report it in writing to the school - direct to the headteacher - as a serious safeguarding concern and say you want school to tell you in writing how they will esnure this can never happen again. Explain this is the second time.

I wouldn't care what SN the other child has. Your son has been pissed on. I would go NUCLEAR.

I had an issue with my daughter's primary school. My daughter was being hurt by a boy in her class.

Firstly, I documented each incident dates, injury's, what my daughter said and the impact on her. I made sure I kept a record if everything.

I then wrote directly to the head outlining each incident, the impact on my child, I even included images of the injurys. I outined how much child wasn't meeting the every child matters agenda and used terminology for it. I highlighted safeguarding concerns. I suggested harm minimisation techniques that could be implemented to reduce the risk of injury.
I met with the head and he arranged for a TA to be with the other boy. They also supported his parents to talk to the GP for an assessment and have applied for an EHCP.

The other child having SEND isn't your problem. While, it's sad for him and his family you need to focus on the safety and wellbeing of your child. The school saying he's got SEND isn't good enough. What are they doing to stop this happening again? What are they doing to safeguard your child.

There was a similar post in the early hours pertaining to two five year olds taking turns to lick eachothers penises.im sorry I put 2+2and came up with 5.

This may have been a week ago.im so sorry I thought the pervert was on the go again.
I'm sorry I lumped you in with that.