Being asked to the my 7yo not to talk about another child at achool

[SloaneRaver]

I’ve been asked by a parent from my DS’s year 3 class to ask him not to mention a fact about the person’s child. The child is currently upset by the fact but the information about it hasn’t come from me. I don’t know them beyond to say hello to so it likely came from the child themselves. I will reply and say of course I will ask DS not to mention it again. What would you do? It won’t change the facts and other people could mention it to the child, which is triggering the upset.

I find your post pretty confusing.

But essentially I'd tell your DC not to mention the topic to his classmate because it might be upsetting and leave it at that.

I would just say that the child has not been the subject of any conversation in your house and that you have reminded dc not to talk about the “fact”.

I’m assuming you do know what she’s talking about though. So what does dc know and is it gossip? if you have no idea what she means, say so. It’s probably playground chat though.

Massively depends on what the fact is, little Johnny has new school shoes your DS really likes/covets, feels like it would be difficult to cause offence mentioning that, little Johnny's parents are getting divorced/dad has gone to prison/mum has been shtupping the PE teacher, probably best not to mention it.
Whatever is is, it's been pointed out it upsets the child, so he needs to stop talking about it.

Thank you. It’s an identifiable “fact”, which is why I’ll leave it at that in this forum. I’ll do just that, reassure the parent it is not something we have discussed and that I have asked my dc not to mention it.

I do know what it is now, but it’s only something I’ve learned recently. I have no idea how dc would know if the child hadn’t told them.

I'd say you'll tell your child not to mention it but that he must have heard it from someone else at school.

I think it depends what the thing is but you can just say to your child can you not mention X to friend because it makes him feel sad.

This massively depends if it's a safeguarding flag.