good luck llll. It sounds like there is hope for you - all you need are 4 parents to go the private route, which in that area seems fairly likely. I'm not sure if the knowledge of how close you are is good or bad? It must be really scary.
We got a bit more detail with the letter that came from Sutton borough today. We narrowly missed out on two of our schools, so there is a chance we will get a 'private drop out' place. Although there are only two girls private schools in the borough, and not many places. There is also the chance that someone will move away.
If not, we are also going to put our names down on the WL for every school which had a large-ish catchment (ie the poorer performing schools), look outside the borough, enquire about private (and resign myself to living in a flat the rest of my life!) and hope for the best.
I know it might sound overly calm, but when it has all sorted itself out, one way or another, we will look back to this in a different way. We just don't know the outcome yet, but it doesn't mean it will be a bad outcome.
Before this I was determined to get a good school for dd, but now I will just be relieved to get anything. A bit but also annoyed. Everyone I spoke to reassured me that this wasn't going to happen, despite my fears (even the admissions officers).
Prior to that constant reassurance I was going to move house into a catchment, and decided against it on the basis that it would work out okay. Talk about a bad decision.