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Parent's Evening. Any one get any surprises?

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OrmIrian · 19/03/2008 11:10

We didn't. I could have told you more or less exactly what each teacher would say before the event. Wish I'd made a bet with DS

DS#1 - has huge potential but has to stop being so bloody lazy. Nice, polite, friendly boy with lots of friends. Only surprising thing was his maths teacher said the he was clearly a mathematician, but a rather lazy and careless one

DD - bright, friendly, polite, hard-working, above average, a pleasre to have in the classroom.

DS#2 - a 'character'. Ahem! She calls him Dizzy.

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OrmIrian · 19/03/2008 11:10

Sorry - bet with DH. I am not condoning gambling amongst 11 yr olds!

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Oliveoil · 19/03/2008 11:16

dd1 is above average in reading and writing and a pleasure to teach as she is so obedient

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but she doesn't socailise very well with the other children, however teacher says she (dd1) seems happy to just watch everyone so is not concerned

UnquietDad · 19/03/2008 11:19

I sometimes feel Parents' Evening at our children's school is a bunch of emasculated platitudes deliberately designed to avoid offending anyone, and are more about protecting the teachers than about actually telling you how your child is doing. DD is "above average"? No shit, Sherlock. Tell me something I don't know.

Oliveoil · 19/03/2008 11:25

well I was quite pleased actually you old misery arse!

bozza · 19/03/2008 11:27

DS is a 3 in reading and numeracy and a 2A+ in writing. He is happy and interested etc and "not a victim". He is also a "different person" on the football field.

TBH the not a victim bit was a surprise if anything. I was really pleased to hear that as having suffered from bullying myself. And I knew he was getting on well academically.

ingles2 · 19/03/2008 11:29

mines tomorrow... if she tells me something I don't know I'll be gobsmacked!

bozza · 19/03/2008 11:36

I sort of agree with you uqd because we have to take the children with us and woe betide anyone who says anything that is not 100% positive in front of the child.

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OrmIrian · 19/03/2008 11:44

I think that is worryingly true UQD. My SIL used to offer to 'translate' the DC's end of year reports for me - I declined I'd rather live in blissful ignorance thankyou. But if they were sugaring the pill with DS#1 I dread to think what they really think.

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UnquietDad · 19/03/2008 11:47

A teacher I know (not DW) has told us that they do have to be careful because some parents have physically assaulted teachers who have said less than flattering things about their little darlings.

Mumsfruitandnut · 19/03/2008 11:55

My ds is 'loveable but odd' apparently. I have to agree, actually.

GooseyLoosey · 19/03/2008 12:03

UQD - really? I get fed up of hearing all of the platitudes and would much rather have a full and frank discussion about what is really going on. No help at all to ds if I don't. Some people are just nuts.

Troutpout · 19/03/2008 12:21

with ds..no
with dd...I was slightly surprised that they seemed to have her measure..and then slightly worried that they may be pushing her too hard...(see we are never satisfied..poor blardy teachers can never get it right!)

stealthsquiggle · 19/03/2008 12:23

We got no surprises, but I was quite comforted by that - in as much as we shut up and let DS's teacher do the talking, and the way she described him and the comments she made showed that she both knows and understands him. That's what I wanted to know.

LadyMuck · 19/03/2008 12:25

No surprises, but to be frank, if there were, then a parents evening wouldn't be the best place to find out imo.

We see a lot of our children's work etc and typically see the class teacher at drop-off and pick-up so it odd to hear something important for the first time at parents evening.

mankyscotslass · 19/03/2008 12:55

No surprises for us, Ds in YR1. His teacher, however, was truly astonished at his reading ability,spelling and number work, given he is a "summer born boy". Don't know why she was so surprised, I have been telling his teachers since he started reception that he could read fluently with comprehension....only taken nearly 2 years at school for them to come to that realization themselves .
He is above average, whatever that means.
Although he will only do the bare minimum he has to so he can get to free play
DD in school nursery is apparently showing signs of being mathematically talented..at 4???

DumbledoresGirl · 19/03/2008 13:00

Yes, we had 2 surprises (so far - ds1's parents' evening is tonight).

Ds3 - is apparently as bright at English as he is at Maths (that was a surprise as all our children have been good mathematicians but very weak at spelling).

Dd - no surprises. She is Little Miss Perfect reincarnated.

Ds2 - is rude and arrogant (another surprise). I mean, we know he has this way of talking, and he is rather too full of his own intelligence, but we did not know he was looking down on his teachers now!)

Shall I predict ds1 for you? Bright, well-behaved but messy presentation of work and does not speak enough (surprise, surprise, he is shy!)

bosch · 19/03/2008 13:05

Blimey, they give it to you between the eyes at ds's school.

Of ds1 (y1), they (job share teachers) said this was about the worst time we could have come to a parents evening, he'd recently disengaged from most school work, wouldn't concentrate, seemed very very unhappy. We were floored, he'd been behaving badly at home - dh described him as like a teenager - but had thought he was still OK at school. Tried talking to him about it, but got nowhere, so tried to cut him a bit of slack at home.

Two weeks later, got a note from one of teachers saying all well again. And better behaved at home too. No idea what happened there!

Of ds2 (rec), teacher said that he only does a very limited area of work, as he chooses and doesn't socialise very well as he needs to dominate games. TBH as he's only 5 in July, I didn't think this was too bad for a little boy. However, at least he had crossed her radar, at the Autumn term parents evening when she didn't really seem to know who he was.

Hmm

kaz33 · 19/03/2008 13:15

In the Autumn parents evening - i was told that DS1 (yr 2) was a thug and wouldn't be a very nice adult

So actually this parents evening was a walk in the park - she was almost nice about him.

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OrmIrian · 19/03/2008 13:23

A thug . Never bad a child called that. DS#1 was once described as 'so laidback he's horizontal'.

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choccypig · 19/03/2008 13:24

I was a bit surprised (Y2). This is the first year that I've really felt we were talking about the same boy.
Reception all they could think about was his behaviour, which was not that bad really, but he tended to ask a lot of questions and expect answers, instead of the told to shut up and sit down.
Year one, the (same) teacher just talked about the one question she'd ever asked him that he didn't understand. FWIW it was a maths question that you could interpret several ways. She could only see the obvious way.
Year 2 the teacher said "He's a very clever boy" and expected me to be surprised. I kind of was surprised that they've finally acknowledged him.
BTW he's not a genius or anything, just "top of the class without really trying very hard"

fedupwasherwoman · 19/03/2008 16:02

At the November parents evening I was not surprised that ds1's teacher had noted his personality traits but was amazed that she had come up with a little action plan to "round him out a little", most of it requiring no input from me at all. I was thrilled that she cared about giving him the best start in life in respect of his school social skills instead of focussing just on school test results and his target hitting potential.

Smithagain · 19/03/2008 20:20

I was surprised that DD1's teachers are refreshingly laid back about whether she does her homework or not and regard it as entirely acceptable if I don't make her do it. Result!

Although I was also slightly surprised that one of the teachers thinks it is just a case of finding the "odd ten minutes" to fit it in. Not sure if they've ever actually worked through any of their worksheets with a real, live five year old to see how long they take

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