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Repeating Primary 2 in Scotland

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NikkiandMini · 02/01/2024 17:33

Looking for advice.

Daughters bday is 24 Feb. Nursery were adamant we shouldn't defer her as she was more than ready to start school. I hadn't appreciated how common it was to defer at that stage - I thought deferring was only if the kid was struggling academically or with development. I had no experience so went with the nursery opinion...now I regret that decision.

My daughter flourished in p1. She was very happy. She kept up academically, socially and emotionally. Physically she is a bit small, but she did great.

All of a sudden in p2, that went downhill. Her class went from a straight p1 class to a composite p2/3. So right away, she was thrown by having her p1 class split up. She then was thrown into a class with kids who were 2 years older than her.

She has lost the friendship group she had in p1- they have all lost interest in her and in each other. She is very social and confident but is meeting brick walls wherever she turns. Noone seems to seek her out. Her confidence has taken an enormous knock.

The school is useless - we have had meetings etc but all we get told is every time they look at her she is playing with someone - when I went and had a peek on four different occasions she was approaching people and trying to join in but that lasted 5 min then she was getting ignored and she kind of trailed off.

I feel she should maybe have been deferred and this social issue could be because she is so much younger than them. I am worried about how it will affect her going forwards.

I am at the point where I am wondering if she should repeat p2 - but does that mean having to change schools? Does it mean staying at same school? Are either even possible? Would it too difficult to keep her at same school and bring with it stigma and self esteem issues?

Has anyone had any experience of this? Or opinions?

Thanks.

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prettybird · 07/01/2024 17:56

You might be better to ask the question in the Scotsnet topic - there are a few early years practitioners and teachers who post there, as well as parents who have experience of deferring (or not).

I'm sorry your school has not been helpful - as that would've been my first suggestion: to get them on board with the idea of her repeating P1. Are you close to other schools? Have you escalated it to the head teacher?

prettybird · 07/01/2024 17:56

....sorry, repeating P2.

Squeezyandbleach · 11/01/2024 21:42

I put my February child back to repeat p1 as covid hit and obviously schools were shut . Myself and 3 other parents had no issues in doing so , school absolutely had the space to let them repeat year as we are a small village school central Scotland and fully supported the decision. It was a simple form which the school and myself completed, much like a deferral form . Ive noticed that it’s now the norm to defer November - February birthday kids . Speak to your school and ask to begin process form . Good luck

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