So do I go and ask about this lunchtime supervisor ?

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Do you ever have to fight the urge to go up to the school and complain about something even if it is important to you or your peace of mind? Have made an appointment regarding my son for monday but am having second thoughts now - to repeat this problem sounds so trivial.it is to do with a lunchtime supervisor who I suspect has a dislike for my ds and is always blaming him for things he did not do. Example 1: ds and friend allegedly caught with willies out; this was at Christmas, both punished, to this day ds adamant he never did this, is shy about his private area. Example 2; same boy same dinner lady boy trips over his own foot dinner lady takes boys story my ds tripped him up over ds version, Example 3; today little girl next to ds burst crisps all over floor, girl blames ds, ds denies this, dinner lady bellows at him repeatedly to tell the truth, he says he is telling the truth, later on when they are lining up she again bellows he is a naughty boy.

Would it be better to just sit back or go in on Monday, as dh thinks it could be him telling porkies (but he is a trainee teacher- i.e. ONE OF THEM) and now I dont know what to do.

Dont get me wrong, I shan't be sobbing into my cornflakes all weekend re. this- planning to all enjoy ourselves instead - but I was just pondering this interesting conundrum; do we sometimes do them more of a favour to stand back and let them crack on, I mean it isnt like he is being persecuted here, just I think she is being a tad unfair and he obviously is not one of her favourites ?

How old is your son?

He is reception, aged 5 and by no means a little sod - gets repeated awards for good class behaviour, gets a little wild at playtime tho

If he was in my class, I would like to be told so I could keep a close eye on the situation. That way I could either confirm the dinner supervisor's stories by investigating it in more depth (they only have one hour to sort stuff out and about a million other kids to look after at the same time) or just make the dinner supervisor aware that the situation is being closely monitored!
Their pay is peanuts and they have a lot to put up with - consequently some still manage to be lovely and some are a f*king nightmare tbh.

And obviously needs to be supervised at that age, so no avoiding her then?

If he's upset by it then I think I would speak to the school, if only to get another perspective but also just in case any other parent had also raised a concern. It's something they could keep an eye on.

Thanks for your quick replies, my dh thinks he is laying it on a bit thick with me and he does do that sometimes, but he was upset each time. His teacher is an excellent one, my prob is my mum,aunties, grandparents are / were all teachers, all emphatically rubbish any contact I should desire with school as unnecessary fussing. And now dh too. Don't ever want my ds to think I am not on his side as I felt when I had probs at school. My mum never would have asked about anything during my wonderfully happy school days!!

I think you could practice the hands off stage when he's a strapping teenager, but at 5yrs old even the smallest things loom large in their lives, and tbh this problem with the supervisor doesn't sound insignificant. I'd certainly raise it. A friendly but concerned word to his teacher sounds in order.

(from a teacher!)

She shouldn't be calling him a naughty boy for one thing. It wouldn't do any harm to have a word with his teacher.

Thank you. Just been reading other thread - re the child who said he was pushed by supply teacher and I did see that these things are never clean cut, I intend to have a word with teacher not head. Will have to cancel headteacher appt on Mon. morning. School secretary will think i am nuts.

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Orinoco you are bang on with your summing up of 'monster dinner ladies' not all of them but you do get one who thinks it is their little bit of power to be judge,jury and executioner,plus they are sort of above reproach as unlike the poor teachers they probably never have a situation when a parent can confront them face to face. Unless you do it off the school grounds! what school aged kid would not be by the 'baby cup' comment.

I would hate to be a lunchtime supervisor though, trying to look after so many little ones. Its amazing therefore these two oddbods get the opportunity to score points over small children, unless of course they are not properly doing their jobs !!