Playdate Advice Needed

[bigfatmom]

Hi
My ds is quite sociable at school and has a fair few friends who have been to our house on a playdate after school.

There does appear to be a select few who I would say he is more chummy with than others.

My ds doesn,t just ask for these classmates to come to our house but is also happy to have others who I wouldn,t really say he is that chummy with.

All the same he still seems to class them as his friends also and seems to like them.

However I am quite a shy person myself and probably only speak to two or three moms.

My son expects me to go up to moms I never speak to and ask if their dc would like to come to our house.

I find it so awkward though and think that they may think it odd when our children are not exactly best buddies.
I have tried the getting my ds to ask instead but he expects me to do it and would you believe that my ds who is 7 calls me a scardey cat if I suggest he asks.

I don,t have a problem with my ds having whoever he pleases but I am much more comfortable asking parents who I at least say hello to.

What would you do would this bother you.

just have to get used it I'm afraid. Mine have friends over to play a lot that they don't really play with at school - they all seem happy with it - and they all seem to love having people over and going to others houses - maybe in a year or two they will wittle it down to a few favourites.

Don't rely on passing on a note - someone gave one to my ds and he forgot to bring it home for over a week

In the meantime be grateful your ds doesn't seem to suffer with your shyness.

I wouldn't feel completely comfortable asking a mum I don't know if their ds could come and play but I would do it because I am the parent and it's my job. If ds asked I would still have to speak to the mum to confirm. You never know, you could make some new friends by speaking to someone different.

I know how you feel though, I am really shy and find it difficult talking to people I don't really know.

your ds sounds great - what a friendly person he is! i think you should encourage it and ask those he invites - if you look/act nervous he will start to feel like that too which is such a shame

other mums will think of it as a compliment and an icebreaker - im sure they will be very pleased!

Hello
It is not at all odd. I think its lovely. Wish you were a mum at my ds school- except when we accept ds (5) insists i come along too and then I agonise I look like I am a neurotic nutcase - see, you can never win, always something to worry about...