y4 child being bullied

[BulliedChild]

new nick as don't want this linked to my account as some school parents are here

been told this morning that my child is being bullied, that someone wrote on a wall "Child is a overweight hippo"

child seems unaware as far as I know and they usually tell me everyhing (like child A told me we only help tidy for points or child B doesn't like us doing x)

Sent an email to the teacher and the head and am hoping this is an isolated incident. don't know what i can do as child is under investigation for ocd already - we never found a root cause but wondering if this is relevant

didn't ask for the bullies guts for garters which is what i really wanted but suggested some PSHE assembly or lesson about different bodies. but ffs they are only 8/9. i thought this came later...

i was bullied for my weight but it was between 10/14, not this early...

we feed child the same as their sibling who is a skinny active sporty person. this child isn't as active but makes an effort - does the cross country trials and all the races in sports days and is just happy not to be last

i suspect the culprits as there is a gang of foreign kids who like to swear in their own language (been told by someone who also speaks the language) who seem to be rather misbehaved...

don't know what i want from this. just letting it all out...

asked 3/4 parents of child's friends and none were aware so it's hopefully not a big thing and not being talked about...

sigh... spent the morning in tears FFS

Need to collect myself before this evening when we go out for halloween but what i want it to scare the shit out of whoever did this.

sorry for the vent... just wanted to let it go annonymously

Op, I'm sorry your child is experiencing this kind of nasty behaviour.

I am wondering who told you about the comment? You say your child isn't aware and that you've flagged up with the teacher so I'm wondering who informed you? I'm asking because, unless it's a very reliable source (i.e. not another child or parent who heard it from their child), they could have got the wrong end of the stick. Hopefully this is the case and nothing as serious as singling out an individual and body shaming them.

I also wouldn't assume it's the group of kids you mention. I suspect, if they were to publish the comment, they'd write it in their first language so no one knows what it says - a bit like the swearing.

You've done the right thing by informing the school and suggesting lessons about tolerance. I'm sure the school are now investigating and will get back to you. In the meantime, check in with DC. If they are none the wiser, I'd wouldn't mention anything. Obviously just keep reassuring them, promoting body positivity and healthy choices etc.

Is there more than this one incident?

A one off writing on a wall in isolation is wrong/bad/unacceptable but is not in my opinion bullying as it isn't sustained.

I am not saying it shouldn't be investigated and action taken, but it doesn't sound like bullying (yet).

I did my own investigation and close friends are unaware but a child from the same nationality mentioned to her mum that these boys last year has already made comments about my child.

The teacher has replied and will so a lesson about diversity and tolerance and so on so hopefully that will be ok...

The person who told me is reliable. she has a SEN child and would gain nothing by shit stirring. She heard from a friend of her child as they were walking to school. No reason to lie.

At least the school knows

My child had a great day trick or treating and seemed very happy this evening so at least that's is good... And well, I will just try and stay away from the boys and their parents... The lest involvement the less option there is for me to blab as this morning I was ready to kill...

Feel calmer now... Also that the teacher got back to me at 7pm on Halloween, so feel guilty ahe was working late but she replied promptly

And regarding the language, last year they were strongly told off for using their language to badmouth people (but the victims used to be teachers and a couple of kids from the same and rival countries)

They tried to split them round but it's a 2 form entry only school so everyone plays together...