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Since going full-time in Reception she doesn't want to go in - don't know what to do?

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Jzee · 06/03/2008 09:43

Bit long sorry...
DD is 4 1/2 and started full-time at reception in January. Prior to that it was just for the mornings 9-12. Before she started school she was at nursery 5 mornings until 12noon and 2-days until 2.30pm.

When she started school she was fine - and went in each day happily. Since going full-time she has started not wanting to go in at all. She is fine right up until saying 'goodbye'. We had a few weeks where she was fine and went in happily, but now she refuses to go in each day which leaves me standing by the class door trying to pacifer her. I try to make a quick exit- but this isn't allways possible unless the teacher takes her off my hands. She is so upset and tells me that 'the day is too long' 'I'm tired' 'Why do I have to go to school everyday?'. The teacher is nice and dd likes her, but even she said to me the other day ' we'll have to do something about this, as ds has been here allmost 6 months'. I can see her point, but at the same time ds is only 4 1/2 and not all children can cope with the same schedule. I allways knew that for ds going full-time at 4 1/2 would be a struggle and was given the impression that the school would be more understanding of this, yet now I'm feeling pressure from them - like this is unusual behaviour.

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Jzee · 06/03/2008 09:51

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posieflump · 06/03/2008 10:33

would they let her do mornings again for a bit longer do you think?

Twiglett · 06/03/2008 10:35

arrange with teacher that she or ta takes her off you every morning say goodbye and walk away

Lazylou · 06/03/2008 10:39

My cousins DS is supposed to be in reception but he can't yet handle a full day at school, so he only does mornings atm but they are hoping to build this up so he is ready by the summer term to attend full time. He is a bit older than your DC and also has some attention problems which the school are sorting out atm but it means that he spends some time in the nursery because he just can't do the formal stuff.

I would speak to the school and as posieflump suggests, ask if it is possible to continue with the mornings with a view to building up the length of time she is at school.

My DD only does morning nursery atm and tbh I am concerned about how she will fare in full time reception come September. She comes home ratty and tired as it is now on occasion so God knows how she is going to be a few weeks in.

Are you sure its just a tiredness thing and maybe not a guise for something else going on?

saadia · 06/03/2008 10:40

Ask the teacher how she is during the day. Some children find the parting from parents difficult and are OK once in school. I think she is still very young and if she is unhappy during the day, it might be worth asking about shortening her school day.

Nemoandthefishes · 06/03/2008 10:56

I have just had this with DS and he is 4.4yrs. He is only in nursery but everyday he was kicking up such a fuss to point of grabbing railings, kicking, screaming etc. I was so worried something was wrong in school and was even considering taking him out of the nursery. However he was settling down within a couple of minutes once I had left him and I just explained he had to go to school not just mummy and daddy being horrible but he has to go there or we would get in trouble. Since then he has been fantastic.

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