Daughter hysterical going into reception

[wineandsun]

Literally as the title says... Dd4 been in full time nursery from 10 months. Started reception 2 weeks ago. First week great, this last week horrific. Screaming, kicking, lying on the floor. I'm stressed, she is. I had to pick her up and put her in the gate. But when I pick her up she's had the best day. At ASC 3 days a week, all happy there (so far). She's usually a really confident child.
Not sure what I'm looking for but just didn't expect this. At all.

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Give it time, she's knackered and it's a huge change. She's known only that nursery since forever. Everything is new and much more grown up.

It takes me months to settle into a new job.

Keep everything else quiet and calm, nice homely weekends and lots of reassurance.

Review after a month.

Will she talk to you at all about why she is upset or her worries? Does she have friends from nursery at school? For some children it does take time to settle, it’s a big change even if they are used to a childcare setting school is very different and so much to adapt to. I would try early bedtimes, lots of rest and try chatting to her about her feelings.

Hi Op my eldest was like this! Loves nursery but hated reception they had to reduce her to two hours as she wasn't coping well.

It took about 6 months before she settled in and then she loved it!

She's now 14 and doesn't believe me when i tell her how inconsolable she was!

She will be fine op, remember she's still very little and it's a big change.

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It's not uncommon. It's the moment of separation that they don't want, but when it's over they settle to enjoying it.

I have a story that always helped me when my dc were upset going in.
When I was 3yo I was in hospital and parents couldn't stay. Parents could stay as we were put into bed and read a story then were expected to go. One day, I can't remember why, I decided that I was going to see how long I could make dm stay for. Every time she got up to go, I got up too and cried loudly.
Eventually the nurse ushered dm out and I clearly remember seeing the door shut, and promptly stopping crying with a feeling of relief thinking "I thought she'd never go". I really just wanted to go to sleep, and really wasn't that bothered by dm being there, I was deliberately manipulating her to see how long she'd stay. Wasn't I mean!