How do I help my daughter year 3

[notahappybunny7]

i have a bright and able little girl but unfortunately she is a bit lazy. As far as school goes, she is hitting all expected targets so their concentration is on less able pupils and she is being left to do a lot of work independently. I’m not really happy with this, obviously. If she isn’t exceeding then surely she should be getting teacher/ta input more? It doesn’t seem fair. I’m prepared to help, tutor, extra curricular, etc but getting her to read, practice a bit of maths/spelling is an absolute nightmare. I’m talking 5 minutes here and there, I’m not chaining her to a desk. I know she’s young that’s why I don’t want to force her but I need to install a work/study ethic.

Even little things like she is perfectly able to use a knife and fork but she just can’t be arsed, drives me mad.

whats the best approach??

No issues, she just really can’t be bothered , I’m going to try and relax, read with her and get her a tutor for an hour a week. Will have to see how it goes but I’m grateful she is where she should be and happy.

That isn’t imaginative play, is it? It’s regression. Usually done for comfort.

Part of Y3 is working independently and at a certain pace. If you can't do 5 or 6 column subtractions without someone prodding you about what to do next, or write a paragraph without discussing each sentence, then you're not at expected standard and certainly won't get to exceeding. It's almost impossible to get a child from expected to exceeding unless they are an independent worker. The teacher has 30 children. Assuming the input for the lesson is 15 minutes and tidying up is 5 minutes, in an hour that leaves less than 90 seconds per pupil (in an hour lesson, which many lessons are not). It's the way it is in state school unfortunately. As for reading and spelling, you're the parent. Do you allow your child to refuse to bath or brush her teeth? You ensure they know it's a non-negotiable.