DD (aged 6) hit another girl last week and I only found out today

[3monkeys]

Am absolutely furious with her. A mum of one of her friends told me when at toddler group this after noon. Was very embarassed - apparently happened last Tuesday. Spoke to DD tonight, she admitted it happened although was very reluctant to give me details (she said I would be cross and shout - too right!) I think I'm getting it all out of proportion but I can now imagine her a friendless bully! I would be horrified to think other people knew she'd done that.
Sorry, thought a moan may make me feel better - DH has gone to bed!

She's six. Six year olds do hit now and again. Not ideal, but not unusual and certainly not a dead cert she's heading to become a major bully.

Anyway it happened ages ago and you didn'tr see what led up to it. I would talk to her calmly, find out what made her cross, then say it's not nice to hit. Ask her is there another way she could have dealt with it.

Why did this mum see fit to tell you anyway? I think that's a bit odd so long after the event.

Apparently I'm the 3rd person she's had words with recently about their daughter upsetting/hitting her child. DD claimed that some boys they were playing with bet her she couldn't scare this girl, so she hit her! Not sure if DD expected her to duck out of the way! I agree it's too late to give her any consequences - I wish I had sat somewhere else this afternoon and was blissfully unaware! School have dealt with it at the time - Dd had to make her a card to say sorry

Ahhh. Nice idea - the card.

I remember a mum coming up to me in the playground saying, 'I think you'd want to know ...' then going on to relate to me some minor incident of misbehaviour of my ds at her ds's party.

I've had kids be naughty at parties before and you just tell them off. Simply. I wouldn't dream of telling their parents. How could you possibly pass judgement when you weren't even there.

Sorry you've been upset by this.

I know really it's all fine. I'm one of those sad people who worry endlessly about the children, especially socially as I'm a bit crap! I should know better by now. Maybe by the time DS2 goes to school I'll be a bit more chilled!