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10yr old bullied by teacher

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dmo · 26/02/2008 09:45

my 10yr old son is being bullied at school its been going on for 4mths now he came home in tears yesterday.
the bully is his teacher!! and he says some horrible things to him making all the class laugh at him
dh and i have been in more times than i can count but the teacher just says my son has got it wrong he didnt say x. also the head who is retairing in july sticks up for the teacher. being a cm i have 2 other children in my sons class who confirm my sons story
my son has dylexia and his teather doesnt like children who cant do

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dustystar · 26/02/2008 09:47

If you are unhappy and the school aren't sorting the problem out then complain to the LEA. It is completely unaccpetable that your son should be bullied in this way

BoysAreLikeDogs · 26/02/2008 09:48

dmo, hoping someone with more ideas wil be along to help

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dmo · 26/02/2008 09:49

how do i find the nummber for LEA? was going to call ofsted.
this is his last yr in school as he will be in high school in sept

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dustystar · 26/02/2008 09:49

When i complained about ds old school (different situation) I wrote a complaint to the governors and copied it to the head od the LEA, my MP and also the diocese as it was a Catholic school. I got replies from all of them and the situation was dealt with promptly and most importantly for me there was a record of my complaint with several agencies so it couldn't just get 'lost'

Hassled · 26/02/2008 09:50

I agree that the LEA (Children's Services) is the way to go ultimately, but is there a Governor you can talk to? Do you know who the parent governors are? And maybe come up with a plan of action - could you ask that your son moves sideways into another class in the same year?

dustystar · 26/02/2008 09:50

Have a look online at your local boroughs website and they'll be on there. They might list themselves under children and families services or something like that.

Megglevache · 26/02/2008 09:51

Message withdrawn

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dmo · 26/02/2008 09:57

their are a handful of children i have spoken to who can give word on what is happening, do you think they would ask the children?

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dustystar · 26/02/2008 09:58

Had a look at your profile to see if I could find some info for you. Look here Scroll to the bottom of the page and it tells you who to contact if you are unhappy with the way the school has dealt with a complaint of bullying.

branflake81 · 26/02/2008 12:21

I don't want to put the cat amongst the pigeons but rememeber there are two sides to every story and you are only hearing your son's.

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dmo · 26/02/2008 13:04

thanks dusty
bran their are other children telling me the same story

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Twiglett · 26/02/2008 13:05

what has the teacher said about your son's behaviour?

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dmo · 26/02/2008 13:16

he has said my son doesnt work as fast as the others and doesnt produce enough work
he said he is a daydreamer and lives on planet Ryan

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catok · 26/02/2008 23:03

Ooh! That's made me really angry for your poor son. If he's diagnosed dyslexic, then his IEP will say what he needs; but more to the point, it helps the teacher to respect that there are some things which he will have difficulties with. The teacher will have to think of ways to make learning more accessible for him - and taking the rip out of him is not going to increase his self-esteem. Daydreaming is often a way of blanking out the anxiety when faced with a mountain of a task. If the teacher says he didn't say "x", then ask him to tell you what he did say; as your son is feeling upset and confused by the teasing.
Correct order to speak to school is:

  1. teacher. Tell him to his face what your issues are, and give him a copy in writing.
  2. headteacher. Give the head a copy; and a very short time limit in which to respond to you in writing.(cos the school then has to officially recognise your complaint.)
  3. Chair of governors (copy of letter)There is a strict complaints procedure for govs. too; so ask for their response in writing!
  4. If you are not feeling reassured that the matter has been dealt with after all that; send copies of all your correspondance to the LEA's Head of Children's Services, and request that they look into it. By the time they reply, your son will be happily settled into secondary, and you will have prewarned his new school of his difficulties!!!
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dmo · 27/02/2008 08:11

thankyou cat
i went to see the headmaster yesterday and explained about my son being the butt of the teachers jokes
the teacher is well known for his sarcastic humor
the head said he would speak to the teacher.
i also said that if anything else is said to my son i would write to further bodys within the school and out
last time i went in the teacher said so you have to get your mum in to fight your battles

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SSSandy2 · 27/02/2008 08:29

what a horrible teacher

QueenMeabhOfConnaught · 27/02/2008 10:05

Gosh, dmo - the teacher sounds dreadful and unprofessional. I would follow this up - the teacher should not be allowed to get away with this infantile behaviour. Are you keeping a diary of his comments?

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dmo · 27/02/2008 11:42

I am keeping a log
he is retairing in 5yrs so is very old school

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