Advice needed on reception girls dynamics

[NuttyBetty]

My DD is in reception and I am not sure what more I could do help her. Would much appreciat any advice on this.

My DD is quite active and sociable and loves going to school.
But she is getting stressed lately by her friend A’s behaviour. For example, A keeps telling DD ‘you are lying’ on a daily basis even though DD didn’t know what lying is (she knows now). Just one of many ‘abuses’, like nagging unnecessarily, forcing DD to do things, snatching DD away from other friends and hitting…

DD’s friend A was in the same nursery class and they are considered to be ‘best friends’.

Things I have tried:
Talking to A’s mum: hitting stopped but the rest still on going. Talked her again, but this time she’s in denial; A denies all of it and she believes her because she knows when A lies. A’s mum seems to firmly believe A plays with other friends mostly, although DD tells me A mostly tries to play with DD.

Talking to class teacher: just said there seem to be some sort of tension between DD and A and DD’s quite stressed, teacher had no idea and just thought they were playing beautifully like any best buddies would. Teacher said they would watch out (no changes so far).

Telling DD to get away:
I tell her to get away from A, but DD says A doesn’t leave her alone and always follows her.
I tell her to ignore when A says hurtful things, but DD doesn’t seem to be able to that. Besides, I am not sure that’s good advice…

DD’s school is an outstanding one and has great reputation locally, but the teachers are already stretched as it is and it seems they can’t do much to help DD.

We will be moving her to a different school in September due to relocation (Not told anyone at school yet) and I know there is no guarentee that DD will have no problem in the new school, but this last few months of sending her to the school is so painful!

Thought about doing a home schooling temporarily before starting new school, but she loves going to school and mixing with friends so it won’t really suit her.

What would you do if you were in this situation?

@ironorchids ", there must be at least one parent on Mumsnet who would tell their child to hit them back?"

Oh, I do hope there isn't!

@CurlewKate
Well we now know there is one! Hopefully not two!!

I don't think what I'm saying is as bad as all that?? Kids need to be able to have options when teachers don't do anything. Maybe you ah e only dealt with schools where the teachers are very effective and able to do something about bullies? Sometimes there will be a bully who everybody knows is being vicious to other kids but it takes time to be able to do something about that. Maybe in that intervening time the other children are being hit again and again and again. I think it's normal for completely well adjusted parents to raise their children to not simply accept this behaviour over and over again if following the rules is resulting in them just being hit all the time?

In this situation it sounds more like other behaviours are going on, but in general I'm not sure why the blanket objection to teaching your child to defend themselves?

This is not unreasonable.

It is.