DS's birthday.

[ALMummy]

It is DS birthday next week. I am taking cake into his school on the day etc and I was thinking about taking in lucky bags. However it turns out there is a vast number of pupils in his class so I was going to do a lucky dip - one for boys and one for girls, making sure there are enough presents to go round obviously. Is this an ok thing to do? I am completely new to all this primary school stuff. The gifts are only worth about 50p each. No one will think I am trying too hard will they? Thanks for responses.

I DID IT WHEN IT WAS MY SONS' BIRTHDAY , CAUSE I COULDN'T INVITE EVERYONE ROUND FOR TEA. THE TEACHER DIDN'T SEEM KEEN FOR ME TO GIVE THEM OUT DURING SCHOOL TIME SO I HAD TO DO IT ON THE YARD AND DID GET A FAIR FEW FUNNY LOOKS FROM OTHER MUMS !

BUT MY SON ENJOYED DOING IT ! AND THAT WAS ALL THAT MATTERED

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i used to send in a lolly for each of the children. the teacher would hand them out at the end of the day so they could go home with them. only up to about age 7 tho.

DS school is quite relaxed and they actually encourage you to bring a cake. There have been 3 parties since beginning of January and the parents of the birthday child are told they can come in at 3 instead of 3.30 to bring cake etc. I did check that the cake thing was ok and it is but I know my DS would love to give all his classmates a little something as well. I was worried about others feeling pressured by my doing it though.

cake seems to go into ours, I did fairy cakes - ok so they still have the mess of eating, but not as much teacher involvement in distribution. One child brought in small packs of sweets of some sort (can't remember now).
Lucky dip seems like overkill to me.

people round here sometimes send in a multipack of min i smartie boxes or haribo or a freddo or something.

I read on a another thread that someones kid didnt get a lucky bag when some were brought in and was very upset etc so I thought that the lucky dip would solve the chance of that happening and that lucky bags were a normal thing to do. Oh well.

TBH I wouldn't bother, it sounds like a bit of a hassle, a small but not insignificant expense, and it will put pressure on mums like me who cannot be arsed with that kind of thing.

puts no pressur eon me, fart

Also thought that sweets are a bit of a no no because you dont know the parents views on it hence the little toys. The Boys toys are little plastic men with parachutes and the girls are little plastic bracelets or tiaras - worth no more than 50p each. They call it a party at his school and if I was throwing a party for him then I would definitely do it. Not sure what to do now.

If you want to do it, do it. FWIW, those plastic parachute men last about 2 minutes and then get all tangled...

wow! Why am I so negative today??

Well no offence but I can be arsed with that kind of thing so why should my DS miss out on doing something like that because others cant be arsed. I was asking whether it was the done thing not whether you could be arsed.

you'll prob get just as much pleasure with chocolate and half the cost

I know but I felt like saying I couldn't be arsed!!! Just part of my reply!!! Jeez....

Has your DS come home with stuff from school for other birthdays? If not - don't. The cake is fine.

On the other thread a lot of people queried the whole party bags at school thing anyway.

FWIW, your ds will not be missing out on anything because of mums like me...it's you who's doing it after all.

Just do it.

Like you said yourself it was a pretty negative response though wasnt it? So you need to expect some back really. Just part of my reply.

touche!!

I think the little toys sound better than sweets.

I'm really lucky as 4 of my children (I have 5) have birthdays in the school holidays.

Well done you - it's a shame all the well thought out and best intentions and consideration of others' feelings of people like yourself are not always appreciated as much as they should.

I think it's fab you are putting so much effort and thought into celebrating your ds's special day.

It's lovely that the school welcomes cakes and encourages a bit of a fuss - isn't that what birthdays are all about - especially as it's your son's 1st birthday on a school day and you have possibly spent all the others so far together.

As you say - the school does call it a party so i would not consider a little going home gift from your ds for the "guests" out of place. It's up to other parents what they want to do on their children's birthdays.

You go with your idea - I think it's very kind of you and honestly - surely it wouldn't put pressure on the others - it's not as if you're handing out Nintendo DSs!!

Double check you have enough!!

I hope you and your ds enjoy his special day

:-)

Cat64 I know people are being polite and I got the information I wanted but found a couple of posts unneccessarily negative so I responded to that not the information given.

Thank you very much MsPontipine. Think I am going to do it. The children would love it and isnt that what its about surely not whether their parents can be bothered or not? Personally I would think it lovely if DS came home with a little gift after a party. I would not be considering how it was going to effect what I was going to have to do.

I only think of myself.