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"Rapist" "paedophile" "sex offender"...

9 replies

MrsSnape · 06/02/2008 14:10

What would you do if your 9 year old boy was being called these kinds of names at school by another 9 year old boy?

What should the school do about it?

Lets say that offensive name calling isn't the only problem with this boy...what would your reaction be?

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Disenchanted · 06/02/2008 14:11

I would be horriefied and go straight to the head.

I would expect him to not only talk to the boy but to his parents too.

hellish · 06/02/2008 14:12

Tell teacher / head immediatately, no good head would allow this kind of thing.

School should also be aware for the other boy's sake, it may well be that they already have concerns about him.

Tortington · 06/02/2008 14:13

i would also ask for the anti bullying policy and contact the LEA regarding the formal complaints procedure with regards to the schools handling of a partic situation - if you feel you do not get satisfaction.

i would meet with the teach/head
i would write things down
i would be mindful not only to complain but to be active in helping with solutions

Mercy · 06/02/2008 14:15

As others have said I would speak to the HT. I would also be concerned for the boy - how does he know these words?

neolara · 06/02/2008 14:17

I would be horrified on your DS's behalf but also be concerned for the boy who was using these words, especially if he is also behaving inappropriately in other respects. I would definitely inform the staff.

chocfest · 06/02/2008 17:51

Having been through exactly this with my son, and not having any luck with the teachers, governors, LEA (apart from the 'oh how awful, we shall make sure it doesnt happen again' idle promises) we ended up taking our child out of school and home educating. Unfortunately schools seem tied to keeping all children in schools which sadly means this behaviour is more common than it used to be. I really really hope you have more luck. Our head was terrified of the boys family, and would rather have stuck his head in the sand than his neck on the line so to speak. An awful time for you, and you have my sympathies. Not only does your child have to suffer these words, but also asks you what they mean, and at 9 years old does not make very comfortable explaining. Good luck, but try to act now rather than hope it all goes away.

hecate · 06/02/2008 17:54

If I had already raised it with the school and they had not acted, it would be a written formal complaint to the chair of governers, cc to the LEA, complaining about the school's failure to deal with it.

chocfest · 06/02/2008 17:59

We wrote and spoke to everyone and felt we were talking to brick wall, we were supposed to be more 'understanding to the child using this bad language as he had come from a dysfunctional family'! We knew that, and did feel sorry for him and had been very kind to him prior to all of this, but it got us nowhere except a very depressed little boy of our own.

cory · 07/02/2008 11:26

I would have no problem explaining to my ds either what the words meant or why he must not use them, or even why the little boy might be using them. But I would think seriously about reporting the little boy's family to Social Services. It's not withdrawing from school he needs (where would he go?) but withdrawing from the family that is damaging him.

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