I help out at dds' primary school twice a week

[2sugars]

as does my sister, in London. My first instinct - when a child has fallen over/fallen out with someone/hurt themselves, is to give them a cuddle. My sister says - her school is in Westminster, not that it should make any difference - is that I shouldn't.

I've never been told otherwise, and the tiny ones are comforted by it.

Any thoughts?

I think the thing is to ensure that you don't give your own child more attention than any of the others. It's OK to look after your own child too though, or they would have asked you to help out in a different class!

Ithink a wee arm round your shoulder when children are upset is harmless and very comfoting to the child. Some places do say no contact etc, which I think is a shame. if you have not been told different then continue.

You're not supposed to have any contact other than is 'reasonably necessary'according to the rules - however you interprete that is up to you !

My son (reception) fell over today and got a massive bump on the head - I got called in to pick him up and it was only 15mins before the end of school.
I was talking to him about it later and he said Mrs X (his class teacher) had come, I asked if she gave him a cuddle - he said no she took him inside to get it sorted.
I don't know whether someone gave him a cuddle once inside - and tbh I think that if they didn't that is a very sad thing.

but i thought you could do the sideways cuddle.

foof, my children are embarrased by me, so there's no interaction there!

I just mean the lovely, cuddly, 4/5 year olds, who when they're tired/hurt want someone to cuddle.

Come Y1 they don't want to know you!

I would be very upset to think that if DD fell over or was upset at preschool/reception that she wouldn't get a cuddle. What a sad state of affairs.

The TA's in dc's school give cuddles and I think that's great.

Unfortunately 2sugars I think you will find she is right. However I think you can give them a cuddle if another adult is present - don't quote me on this though I could be wrong. It is indeed a very sad state of affairs.