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Child has been hurting my child in school

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Worriedmum910 · 17/12/2022 01:06

My daughter is in reception she has this friend who was nice to her when she joined but recently she has been squeezing my daughter hard to hurt her and scribbling on my daughters drawings.

I went to pick her up the teacher told me my child dug her nails into the other girl by squeezing her and drawn blood out so the other girl went crying told the teacher.

When we were leaving the school she told me the girl squeezed her arm so she squeezed her back and when I was back at home helping her wash her hands I noticed raised pink bumps on both wrists and she told me the girl had squeezed her and also drew with a pen on her hand.

I phoned the teacher to tell her what had happened she did apologise but said she had asked my child did she hurt that girl and my child was honest and admitted she did!

The teacher said my daughter didn't inform them of the other girl hurting her. And the other girl had blood and was crying that is how they knew. But still they should have asked my child why did she do that.

My child told me the teacher shouted at her to get out and sent her to nursey as a punishment and then when they let her back in she was told to sit at the back of the class for her behaviour.

They are on Xmas break now I don't know what to do. I can't stop thinking about it that my daughter got punished but the other child got away with it. I have also taken a photo as evidence.

My child she told me she didn't cry even though she wanted to and its really breaking my heart. That girl doesn't like it if my child plays with any other kids, she snatches things out of her hand and doesn't share.

I'm fuming but also upset. I have told my child to tell the teacher if the girl hits her again but seems she's not comfortable telling them for some reason.

Should I email the school or wait until it opens in the new year and raise my concerns with them? I feel its unfair the way my daughter was treated yes she should be told off but so should've that girl and the teacher should have asked both children what happened not just one.

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TizerorFizz · 20/12/2022 11:13

The EY Framework doesn’t mention “Free Flow”. That’s a curriculum delivery method. Play is mentioned but there is huge emphasis on guidance and learning goals. How that is delivered is down to each setting. There is no prescribed method. Therefore when DC do sit down (for story time, writing, maths discovery etc) the OP most certainly can ask for DC not to work together. All activities in YR should be supervised to some extend otherwise staff would never know if learning goals are being met via the activities.

Smilesallround1 · 01/01/2023 11:59

Lies! Free flow is compulsory at EYFS

Yellowmellow2 · 01/01/2023 16:05

RunLolaRun102 · 17/12/2022 01:26

Write a complaint to the headteacher and ask they change your daughter’s class. In the meantime, tell your dd to tell the teacher every single time this girl touches her. Tell her to say really loudly, don’t touch me / don’t hurt me & don’t just tell her it’s ok to play with other children but encourage it with playdates.

This is absolutely the wrong advice - totally out of proportion.

As others have said, a huge part of the EYFS curriculum focussed on personal development which includes socialisation and dealing with conflict. The things you describe are quite normal and will help your child to deal with future conflict and speak up. The teacher has acknowledged your points so leave it at that. It’s really not a biggy!

TizerorFizz · 01/01/2023 23:14

@Smilesallround1
Show me the government curriculum document that actually says this.

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