AIBU?

[greenbananas29]

DS has a 'friend' in his class who is very over powering, and has recently been controlling DS not letting him play with anyone else and asking him to do things etc and saying he wants him to play with him no one else.

I've approached the teacher and said that DS is feeling overwhelmed by this boys constant obsession to play with him and want him to sit next to him all the time etc and he said he will monitor the situation and try and separate them during different daily activities.
Last week I found out that DS was asked if he wanted to go and spend 'free time' with this boy who has an hour a day to play with what he wants in a separate room because of his attention difficulties and behavioural problems!
I'm annoyed that they put my DS in that situation just to keep the boy happy in my eyes and make life easier so he doesn't kick off and he has his 'friend' with him so he's happy.
I do not want my DS singled out and isolated from the rest of the class while the boy has his free time especially when we are trying to distance them and encourage other friendships!
Am I over reacting?
I just don't want this to become a problem or issue further down the line and want to nip it in the bud first.
What is the best way to approach this as I am planning on speaking with the teacher about my concerns?
Thanks 😊

I don't think that you are overreacting at all. It is not your son's job to pander to the needs of another student at the detriment of his education (which is what is happening).
I would be requesting a meeting with the teacher and senior management and state that this is what you have been told. Find out their side of the story (it might be a misunderstanding but regretfully I doubt it) and re-state your son's concerns about the other child's behaviour. You need to mention that you have raised your concerns before informally.
I am sure that others have more experience and support, but this would be something that I would want resolved very quickly.
Good luck!

YANBU - this is not in your son’s best interests . They are ignoring your son’s needs to keep the other child happy.
In fact they have done the opposite of what you requested. Time for a clear written complaint, asking that this done not happen again and that efforts are made to allow your son space to grow , make other friendships and not be controlled.

I work in schools and I agree , find out exactly what happened and if your son is correct tell them clearly he is not to be asked again
They should have other strategies, it's not your sons problem to put it bluntly

Why is ‘write a complaint’ or ‘demand a meeting the SLT’ the first reaction? How about catching the teacher at the door and finding out what happened first before stamping your feet and throwing a strop?

Speak to the teacher. We have had situations where a child has a playtime with one or two "friends" to encourage social interaction. If a parent has spoken to me I will always say, "Oh, N is doing something else. Please pick someone else today." Sometimes children can then say in front of the child that they don't mind. Difficult situation when that happens!

Not your child's role to support someone else's learning programme if they don't want to. But do make sure your child is giving off the same vibes at school - some children just want to please.