Conflict after a play date

[Christinawolf]

Hello, don't know where to find help and advice. My youngest son is in Y1, he's 5. I got two older sons at the same school but never been in a situation like this. We had a play date with his school friend (a girl) in our house last week. Yesterday this girl's mother texted me that our kids played a game where they showed each other their private parts. Fast forward today the headteacher called me and told me he has spoken to my son today as it's an abnormal behavior for a 5-year old boy... First of all, we have so many girls over in our house all the time (friends and family), not even mentioning my daughter, my son's little sister. Never had any issues... Secondly, is it normal for another parent to talk to the headteacher about a play date in our house? And finally, how could a headteacher talk to my 5-year old son without my knowledge?Has anyone experienced anything similar? Can I complain about the school’s policy? I'm honestly puzzled and speechless.

I'm sure it's 100% innocent but it does flag up as a safeguarding issue when children show their genitals.
I think the HM speaking to your son it a bit OTT though, they'd have been better doing a whole class pants talk imo.
And you should've been involved too.
My son (aged nearly 4 at the time) had a game of 'bottom doctors' at his new nursery and I was 😳😮

Of course your child needs an adult conversation. He could have been subjected to abuse? And yes I'd have gone to school, for the sake of all the children who's parents say 'he's just being a boy'

Tbf if she had posted about it on here she would have been advised to speak to the school before speaking to you incase your child was being exposed to stuff they shouldn’t be

It is a safeguarding flag so she would have been advised to contact someone. I guess she could have called SS or the head. The head has to take some action. Seems like he has alerted you and spoken to your ds about what happened. I don't see how or why you would be complaining tbh. Yes, it is upsetting but no one has done anything other than try and protect the children from potentially unsafe behaviour.

My first reaction would have been same as yous, but actually after having a think I wonder if she spoke to your son first before speaking to you just in case there was something awful happening at home and didn't want to give you chance to 'coach' him or whatever. Just a thought! As there's nothing like that this all probably feels OTT and very uncomfortable for you but i guess it's good they're taking things seriously given that some kids aren't safe at home etc