Why do I feel a bit upset about this when I haven't really got a right to be

[lostittoday]

My son recently had a party for his 7th birthday to which he invited 15 boys out of his class.

He told me at the time that he only wanted to invite the boys out of his class and not any girls I just went along with this and with 15 invites sent out felt that was enough anyway.

Recently a girl in his class has just had her party and invited the whole class except my ds.

My son didn't get a invite and I suspect its because she wasn;t invited to his. It wouldn't be because they don't get on or anything as I know they do, I have seen them play together and I have spoken to her mom on the odd occasion.

I realise how I probably sound but I just feel its a bit petty what do others think.

Ah dont worry she is just being silly ,hope your DS isnt upset .

No tbh not even sure if he knows she had a party.

My son wanted to invite a classmate to his party who never invited my ds to his.
At the time I did think should he, but my son wanted him there so he was sent an invite and he did come.

It's a minefield, these party invites politics.
My DS has also invited plenty more than have invited him back. To both parties and playdates.
If your son doesn't know about being the only one excluded (are you sure he was really the only one, and maybe he and the girl really don't get along?) and gets invited to at least one other party this school year then I would shrug it all off. You just have to.

You know lostit, I just realised something that answers your thread title. It isn't the fact that our children weren't invited that is so bad to take, it's the fact that as mothers from the time they're little we train ourselves to tune in to their feelings, so we know how our children would feel if they did know they weren't invited. So we do actually feel the pain they would feel, and that's why it's so upsetting.
It isn't a logical response and maybe we shouldn't be ashamed of how we feel.
It happened to me today, I was acting as parent helper, listening to children from DD's class read. Out of a child's book fell a party invite. If I never knew about it, it wouldn't matter, but I did find out. Then another child present asked me if DD was invited and I had to say I didn't know (now I can presume not since no invite for DD turned up in tonite's bookbag).
Just X my fingers DD never finds out.

I defy anyone to not be a tiny bit upset somewhere inside when their dd/ds isn't invited somewhere..... Lostittoday, the girl's mum who invited everyone except your ds is VERY mean and petty!