My son is leaving primary school and off to secondary school in Sept. He was recently diagnosed with dyslexia and is quite an impulsive boy. His IQ when tests at school in 133 and he has been doing well so far in school. The past 6mths have been difficult, constantly getting in trouble and not focusing/ finishing his work. So much so the skills and strategy leader suggested he is assessed for ADHD. He is a caring, highly emphatic with a strong sense of the world around him. He is a fantastic imagination, loves to speak and is always campaigning to make things better. He is totally down and I feel some of the teachers comments really hurt him. I let him read the report. He told me “ I always get blamed for things even if I don’t always do them”. I will have the opportunity to start afresh at my new school” Breaks my heart as I do suspect there is some unconscious bias here.
Any tips to prepare for secondary school please for a child with SEN and now quite low self esteem? Thank you x
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MamaJubba · 05/07/2022 18:07
KarrotKake · 05/07/2022 19:04
Can you find something he loves, and build on that over the summer?
DS is now Y8 so finished primary in covid lock downs. He had a couple of calls with secondary, one of which was a 1-1. We had looked at some of the Oak Accademy summer stuff, and he had cooked a couple of meals and done some other bits from there. They were impressed, and set him off on the right foot with his class tutor.
He's also dyslexic and bright. He has found his tribe at secondary, and got a really great set of friends. I suspect most are on the SEN register for one reason or another, but they are all just lovely. DS is thriving.
Bwix · 07/07/2022 18:22
Hello OP: I have framed my end of year 6 report and have it next to my degree certificate from Cambridge.
It says 'it's a pity Bwix has not given of her best this year. Her work is presented poorly and is below average for the class..." and then some comments on behaviour.
I turned it around in secondary: I wanted to prove people wrong. As others have said, your ds needs to find the right friends but also decide for himself that he wants to do well. SENDCO support can make a huge difference too. I only discovered fiddle toys like tangle as an adult, but even as a teenager I used to have lumps of Blu tac to fiddle with to help me focus. Your ds has a great opportunity for a fresh start.
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