Am I being oversensitive?

[squinny101]

I feel that my DS1's teacher has a problem with him. He only started school in September. Have very minimal problems with him at home he is a good boy but can sometimes 'get a little overexcited' when playing. I have been called up the school about it and told that he has had to be separtaed as he was pushing other kids over (along with another boy). This sorted itself out. I told him to apologise to the teacher and the boy he pushed over and his mother, he has now changed friends so this does not seem to be a problem. Next thing I got told off because he went in two days in a row without his tie on. Now yesterday, the teacher pulls me aside to tell me that she has noticed that my son has cradle cap. Now I don't really see what this has to do with his education! I explained that he gets very hot in the night and I am aware of it he has shampoo etc. to sort it out.

Am I being oversensitive, I feel like she's picking on things that aren't really worth picking on. He's five. I don't want to be an over protective mother, I am the first to admit if my children are being naughty and have addressed the behaviour situation but feel like she is going a bit ott.

Bless him - he's only in reception - they should let them get a bit excited now and again. They want them to grow up so fast in schools nowadays.

Could you book an appoitment with your DS' teacher and explain your concerns and say what a good boy he usually is.

I'd come straight out and say you don't know why she's telling you about the cradle cap thing. Perhaps, if she's a mother, she thinks she's helping.

My DD (6) was made to stand up in front of the class for 3 mins yesterday for chattering. I'm sure she wasn't chatting to herself so it was a bit alienating by making her do it alone.

The only reason I can think of why she mentioned the cradle cap is maybe she heard other children commenting on it and she's trying to spare his feelings?

Or is she not that sensitive?

Is wearing a school tie part of the uniform, coz if it is, I think I'd send my dc to school with it on, rather than with it off.

The tie is part of his uniform, he only went without it for two days because he had left it at his dad's. I felt quite embarrassed explaining in front of everyone as my son is the only child in the class whose parents aren't together.

I can see why she mentioned the pushing other kids over & the tie bit, it's all to do with school.. can't understand the cradle cap thing though.

My sister is going through the same kind of thing with her 7yr old at school, it was heartbreaking to see her talk about it today.

Actually, at my nephews school he would have been sent hom or his mam called if he hadn't on hos whole uniform, so it could have been much worse....

Normally if children at the school I work at leave stuff at their dad's (it's very common btw, it's usually shoes) the mum writes a little note so the teacher knows not to comment and it saves explaining in front of everyone else.

Actually I wouldn't say that 3 problems of that type in just over a term is very unusual, and I'd guess the teacher was just trying to be helpful about the cradle cap.

TBH it is quite common for kids to leave things at a parents house if they were there at the weekend etc.

Most teachers will have seen this loads of times, so don't worry about it. It is just part of life

Perhaps his dad could buy another tie so that it could stay at your house if this happened again.

squinney is he your oldest child? and the first the start school? It's horrible when it's your first and you don't know what to expect. It's even worse when you don't know any of the other mums in the playground and can't ask them these things, but I guess that's exactly why mumsnet was invented.

Don't worry, things will get better.