SEN child being bullied - contact school or parents?

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My SEN child is being verbally bullied by a couple of children in the class. School have been approached last term and response wasn't very reassuring: "they need to learn to deal with it"
However child is now hysterical at times, talks about the bullies daily and how they make life hell (even talks about it during holidays every day), not wanting to go to school etc. I will contact the school again.
The parents of the bullies are very nice, is it worth talking to them as well or does this always backfire....?

You might get different advice, but first I would go back to the school. 'Learning to deal with it' just isn't acceptable.

Ask to see their policy on bullying, and ask what strategies they are going to put into place to stop it from happening.

It's the school who should be contacting the parents, not you.

That's absolutely disgraceful of the school to say your child needs to learn to deal with it. I would love to hear what OFSTED have to say about that.

I have a child who has SEN and he too was verbally bullied, I spoke to the class teacher of the child who was doing the bullying. She nipped it in the bud straight away.

I would 100% be asking to see the head teacher and ask to see their policies on bullying and if you don't get a satisfactory answer, I would absolutely take it further.

Your child should not have to be subjected to bullying, it should be down to the school to deal with and not parent vs. parent.

We had this with one of our children. Some of the lads in the class were grabbing our childs belongings and throwing it around amongst them, trying to antagonise and upset him. One child did impressions of our son while the other kids laughed. They Pushed in the queue at lunch with no teachers intervening. We ended up moving our child in the end they were getting completely distressed. Best thing we did as he is fine now.

Some schools don't have strong systems in place to deal with poor behaviour and mob rule starts to take over. Agree with previous posters, the school should be talking to the parents of these children and taking action.

School, always.

Shocking that school said that, talk about victim blaming. Talk to school again, ask about bullying policy. Also follow their complaints procedure. Often it starts with talking to the teacher, then if no joy going to the head and then going to the governors. Follow the process.

No child should 'just have to deal' with bullying fgs. Write everything down that your child has told you/tells you with dates, names, what was said etc.

School. Complain to the Governors, as per complaint policy, if they don’t resolve it.

Always school first. Mug up on their anti bullying policy, and SEND policy (should be on the website) to test what they say they do with what they actually do. Also make an appointment with the SENCO.