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Adhd impulse control friends

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ANON2ANON4ANON7 · 17/02/2022 19:51

My DD is suspected of having Adhd\autism which isn't a complete shock as her dad has it. She is an only child for context. At home she is perfectly fine (low attention span, fidgets, emotional etc. But not violent like she is at school).

School have reported that she is hitting other students, kicking and in one case even bit someone. When I've talked to her sometimes it has been an issue I could understand why she would (still explained wrong and she should go to a teacher) however sometimes it's as simple as not playing the game how she wants. School reported a few months ago she was popular and had lots of friends however today is a different story. All this week other students have refused to play with her and called her stupid.

I'm at a loss and wondered if anyone had any ideas please?

I have already:

Done an example of how to apologise to her friends
Talked about the bodies response to anger and how to recognise her anger
How she can deal with e.g. Count to ten, deep breaths, walk away, ask a teacher for help "I feel angry".

I have a themometre chart at home where we move it up and down and discuses stages what to do to calm down.
She has a behaviour line as well.

It's really hard seeing her so upset and lonely but she's caused it herself I know but just really want to help her repair and maintain those relationships.

No changes at home either. Apparently some classroom chanees though.

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howdoyoulikeyoureggsinthemorni · 17/02/2022 20:29

Are you asking about ADHD specifically? You say your DH has 'it' and then refer to two entirely separate conditions so I just wanted to clarify.

ANON2ANON4ANON7 · 17/02/2022 21:38

No she is suspected of having ADHD\Autism. I was explaining for the purpose of where the impulse control comes from and for context for people who could give advise.

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howdoyoulikeyoureggsinthemorni · 17/02/2022 21:59

So she is suspected of having both ADHD and autism?

ANON2ANON4ANON7 · 18/02/2022 13:28

Yes. I suspect it is ADHD. School agree but have also suggested Autism. They are requesting a referal when she turns 5 but currently looking at other avenues as well. Sorry if that wasn't clear.

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GoingBacktoSchool123 · 19/02/2022 20:08

She's only 4. Kids that age can't remember what they had for lunch yesterday let alone who bit them last week. Give it time. Maybe arrange a couple of out of school play dates as one-to-one may be less overwhelming.

My DD was a bit of an outsider in primary school but she has grown into herself, found similarly quirky friends and is perfectly happy.

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