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Can any primary teachers advise please?

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Iputthetrampintrampoline · 07/02/2022 21:12

Hi everyone
My daughter is 10 and a sensitive little thing,This weekend she was sent some optional homework to do if she wished, As my daughter is a real people pleaser she relished this and helped make the Sunday lunch,not much but made yorkshire puddings, chopped some veggies and mashed the potatoes, She then made via a couple of tik tok videos hunters chicken all on her own step by step,under supervision of course,for tonights dinner and then made a disasterous nutella souffle! She worked so hard,was fully engaged and had a messy but good time,She was very proud of herself! She wanted me to take pictures and send them to school but my computer skills are frankly rubbish and I wouldnt let her take my phone into school,so I thought the best thing was to write a note to the teacher stating everything she had done and how much fun we had and how we enjoyed it, I thought that would be enough,however today my daughter handed in her letter and was so proud of herself when the teacher claimed and I quote,.."I have no proof you did this so I am not awarding you any house points" My daughter was crushed by this really disappointed and upset. She said she thinks Miss xxxxx thinks we are lying. I am so ballsed off with seeing her so upset.when she tried so hard. To think a teacher would snub her like that and be well quite cruel. So my question is to teachers is this..would you have handled it the same way? Am I being ridiculous to be so miffed that it was my lack of skills meant my daughters efforts were so easily discarded? I am upset for my daughter ,she thrives on praise and she was hurt,Also to be indirecty called a liar maybe a bit strong but to be so disbelieved I feel was rude, Do I say anything ? I dunno maybe I am making a metorphorical meal out of this but I thought we built kids up not knock them down?
Sorry for the epic post!

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cansu · 08/02/2022 07:20

That is bizarre. I am a teacher and my response would have been to praise her, ask how it had all tasted and given her some housepoints.
V odd.

LazySaturday · 08/02/2022 07:31

I'm a teacher and would have given the points. She was frankly a bit unkind to your dd and if it meant that much to her she could have gone about it in a much kinder way as pp have suggested.
Also as pp have suggested though, you can set up and presumably monitor a TikTok account, access Mumsnet and create your own post and take pictures with your phone in the first place. If you can do these things then you're not that much of a technophobe and it would be helpful for you to learn how to email photos. If there's no teacher's email, just send them to the school office with FAO ... on them.
For now though, maybe catch the teacher after school and comment about how hard she worked, maybe appeal to the teacher's better nature.

Inspectorslack · 08/02/2022 07:38

How can you post here but not know how to email a photo?

Why is such a young child on Tiktok?

Howshouldibehave · 08/02/2022 07:40

I wonder how many other people were demanding them having also got no evidence.

Come on OP, upskill yourself! It's your responsibility to do these things when required, not to make excuses

This is the crux of the matter though and entirely your own fault. I’m stunned you can post on mumsnet and must have been through two bouts of home learning, yet can’t Google how to email a photo?!

You could have learnt in about 2 minutes and then your daughter would not have been upset.

VioletLemon · 08/02/2022 07:43

How was the homework originally shared, did it state how to submit? Usually it would say, hard copy, photos, digital copy etc. It's simple to send in an email with pics attached but unless you're uploading them to a platform like MS Teams or Seesaw I doubt the school would have admin space to print loads of emails out. Perhaps the skill being taught is using the platform but maybe the teacher didn't make that very clear. Sounds like your daughter worked really hard, if you have photos then print them in Asda.

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Iputthetrampintrampoline · 08/02/2022 07:55

Thank you all for taking the time to reply it was very generous of you to spare your time.I know how busy you all are.The points made are very valid and appreciated. I am waiting to go on a basic night school course to learn myself how to do such simple things in an adults computer course.My lack of knowledge is going to be needed to sharpen up to help my daughter I realised that a while ago.You should have seen the faff I had when her school went cashless and I had to fathom that out! Took days! All my working life and I am the wrong side of 50 never included computers and there was a sort of irrational fear of learning so I ducked out and never really bothered, The tik tok thing was sent to us in a message form from a friends mum as we don;t have it with my dd not being old enough I believe for her own account? I just found it an odd situation for someone to react like she did..like why would we lie? We have always supported school and I thought ,well never questioned really why we wouldn;t be believed, Never mind it was just one of those things I guess,We learn by our mistakes and from our side it won;t happen again!!! Roll on after Easter when I can crack on with my course I do recognise I need to do this for my dd, Has though to be honest left a bad taste in my mouth the way my daughter was treated I do have to say,Thank you all again I do really appreciate your comments and time taken to reply,Best wishes sent to you all x

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Russell19 · 08/02/2022 08:14

You are right about the way your daughter was treated it wasn't very kind.

MaggieMooh · 08/02/2022 08:23

I’d query why a note from a parent is not acceptable proof that something happened. What about when you write a note to say she’s going to be absent or some other issue. Is the teacher going to disbelieve that too?

Datsandcogs · 08/02/2022 09:06

I would raise this with the teacher, face to face, so that you can prove your point with your photos.

I’m shocked they didn’t take your word for it. I’m disappointed they responded the way they did. They need to improve their communication of expectations for the work that they set.

Howshouldibehave · 08/02/2022 12:52

You don’t need to go on a course. Just Google how to attach a photo in an email and send it to the school email address. I’d do it now, before the end of the school day.

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Iputthetrampintrampoline · 08/02/2022 16:46

@Howshouldibehave

You don’t need to go on a course. Just Google how to attach a photo in an email and send it to the school email address. I’d do it now, before the end of the school day.

I really do need to go on a course! I need to learn the basics properly on my own so I don;t need to rely on other people . I think once I get over the fear of pressing wrong buttons and breaking things I will be ok. As the homework was indeed optional and the kids have all week to decide whether they are doing it or not we will start again and she can, take something in she has made tonight that way theres no well you know! Thanks everyone for all your comments xx

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treesandweeds · 08/02/2022 17:30

@Rickrollme

Are you saying neither you nor your 10-year-old know how to email a photo you took on your phone? You have no reason to lie on here but I would find that hard to believe.

This. You can work tic toc, post on this forum but you can't email a photo? Hard to believe....

Howshouldibehave · 08/02/2022 18:50

I really do need to go on a course!

Sorry, but you absolutely don’t. If you can manage to post repeatedly online, you are able to email someone a photo. I would be so embarrassed if my daughter didn’t get the reward she should have because I couldn’t spend two minutes googling how to do something.

DelphiniumBlue · 08/02/2022 18:56

The 8 year olds I teach know how to email a photo, or you could submit it through Google Classroom?
Ask your daughter to do it.
Anyway, FWIW I do think the teacher was being mean.

lanthanum · 08/02/2022 21:45

@Rickrollme

Are you saying neither you nor your 10-year-old know how to email a photo you took on your phone? You have no reason to lie on here but I would find that hard to believe.

I don't do email on my phone; that makes it non-trivial to get a photo from my phone into an email. A child shouldn't be penalised for technology issues.

I think it's appalling that a teacher is effectively saying "I don't believe what your mum says." And if someone were lying, what's to stop them faking the photos - easy enough to do.

I bet they take your word for it on things like absences from school, which are a far more serious matter.

DietrichandDiMaggio · 09/02/2022 21:55

What year is your daughter? As she is 10, she must be year 5 or 6. All of our Y6s (possibly all the 5s too) know how to attach photos and share with the teacher themselves. How did you manage home learning?

MiniCooperLover · 10/02/2022 14:44

'Waiting to go on a course'. Google it OP! The excuses are desperately poor. Yet your typing and posting here fine 🤷‍♀️

Goooglebox · 10/02/2022 14:46

A nasty note from her teacher. At the same time you are expected to make some record of learning for everything and it's probably hard for her to imagine why you didn't.

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