Has anyone got more than one child with dyslexia?

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School has just asked permission for dyslexia screening for DD2. While I'm happy they are being proactive, its come as a complete surprise. Shes so different to DD1.
DD1... trouble with remembering instructions, rote learning (such as spellings and times tables), very slow to learn to read and needed special programmes. Atrocious handwriting but there is a possible other reason for that one. And irs getting better now.

DD2... picked up reading easily. Remembers everything. Can be careless with school work if its too easy. And the bit that's given the school suspicions... she reverses letters and spells phonetically.

Question really is... can the presentation really be this different? The fact its just writing not reading, organisation etc threw me as well. Having mum guilt too.
(Their father has also had a relatively recent diagnosis and it appears to run in his family)

How old is she?

yes, your DDs sound very similar to my DS's

DS1 very severe dyslexia picked up very early due to his struggles, DS2 not picked up til college A levels as he was very different and a good reader but has both dyslexia and to our surprise dyspraxia.

With great school / uni and parental support - DS1 graduated recently with a 1st, DS2 at Uni and doing well.

@Newnamemsz

How old is she?

Forgot that bit. Shes nearly 9, Yr4 in England. (DD1 is 10, Yr6).

DD1 was first suspected in Yr1 at just turn 5.

I have two dyslexic boys and one non-dyslexic girl. I clearly remember thinking ‘he is definitely not dyslexic” about DS2 because the presentation was so different to DS1. My big markers are “can they sequence” and “can they tell the time”. DS2 is about to start a Masters of Teaching but still cannot read an analogue watch!

Can be careless with school work if its too easy

How sure are you that’s she’s being careless? I only ask because ‘careless’ was the word used to describe me in every school report. My mum did raise that she thought I was dyslexic but was always told no, I was ‘too intelligent’ I was just careless. I was an excellent reader. Was eventually diagnosed with dyslexia and dyspraxia at college.

hiya
I have dyslexia. I can spell pretty well etc (ignore my typing on here that’s atrocious!!). But I can’t remember anything unless I write it down! 3 times for important things that I need to remember off hand (for exams etc)
But because I can spell no one realised I had dyslexia until o was in my teens.
Unfortunately dyslexia is one of those things that can be really varied and many people think it’s if you spell backwards or something

On a strange note ( not sure if it applies to you by as a heads up) some of the difficulties I had were later attributed to being left handed. It’s because our brain is the opposite way to most of normal life so it’s like backwards processing (apparently!!)

@Oruguita for example she'll get the easy "warm up" questions wrong on a maths worksheet and then the harder extension ones right. Send her to do them again and to take her time she gets them right.

Yes 2 of my dd have dyslexia. It is hereditary so many families will have more than 1 child who are dyslexic.

Dd2 has commonly known dyslexic traits like muddles letters writes them wrong way around. Cant see the difference between there and their cant and cont etc.

Dd3 presents completely different. Is slow and picking things up but gets it 100% when she has picked it up. She never muddles letters doesn't write wrong way around like me (also dyslexic) she can tell a word is wrongly spelled but not what is wrong. And like me she gets the rage at people answering "as you say it" to the question of "how do you spell x" (please don't do that it doesn't help a dyslexic person at all)

Dd3 was not diagnosed until year 9 where we paid privately to get her assessed. Dd2 we have known all her schooling

Yes 2 DC both dyslexic and v different

DS struggled from the beginning - didn't read until had special intervention when was 7. But excellent oral comprehension. We recognised the dyslexia when he was 5 although not diagnosed until he was 7 or 8.

DD no noticeable challenges in primary. Read on time but always struggled with oral and reading comprehension . V organised and hard working. Worked well with others. Had coping strategies that covered up her issues until hit Y6. Then became more obvious- couldn't understand long questions, follow detailed instructions, wrote longer answers, read long books and hold story, diagnosed in Y7 or 8.

BTW I never struggles with reading in fact I was above average for reading. As an adult one of my coping mechanisms is being super organised about work. ( currently studying) in retrospect i can see dd3 picked this coping strategy up far sooner and it masked her dyslexia until being organised no longer masked it enough. Her teachers were shocked by the level of support the assessment recommends.

Thanks for all replies. I've picked up a couple of other things I've noticed with her but not really thought anything of before- she likes having lists of tasks to follow, her comprehension of books can be funny (she can miss a major plot line but describe all the minor details), that sort of thing.

I guess with DD1 being so obvious I missed the subtleties with DD2.

Now to convince her that her "word blindness" (thank you Malory Towers) is an explanation not an excuse.