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Feeling like a prize idiot

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Janni · 12/12/2007 15:09

I've devoted far too much of my adult life to my three kids, having been a full-time mum and sent the older two to a Steiner School. I bought into the whole Steiner philosophy and gave an awful lot of my life to the school, helping other families with childcare etc etc.
My younger son's class once he left kindergarten was a bit of a disaster and, although he was not unhappy, he was learning nothing other than how to mess about with his mates. We moved him in September, at age 7, having spent the summer helping him catch up with the academics. All seemed to be going well unti I was called to see his teacher and headteacher and told that he'd been using some rather shocking sexual language in the presence of girls in his class. I had never heard anything like this from him, but immediately knew where it was from. A boy in his class at the old school had been reported to social services due to concerns that he'd been exposed to pornography. The school totally mishandled it and in the end it was the girl to whom the things had been said who left the school and the matter was brushed under the carpet. I left my son in that class for a whole year and that's what I am now so mad with myself about because continued exposure to this boy has really affected his innocence and the ironic thing is, I wanted a Steiner education for the children so that they could have more of a childhood. I feel depressed and ashamed and I'm sure parents at the new school will be talking about us and pointing the finger at us. I just can't put it out of my mind.

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Saturn74 · 12/12/2007 15:14

You are clearly a mother who cares very deeply for her children.
You are not to blame for the fact that the former school mishandled the situation.
I'm sure your son now realises that what he said was inappropriate.
How did you and the school deal with it?
It will soon be old news, so don't worry.

Janni · 12/12/2007 16:50

Thank you HumphreyCushion.
It's just that the Head of the new school was really tough with us about it and I don't have a relationship with that school yet whereby they know we're not a dodgy family. I wrote a letter to her the following day to reassure her we took the matter seriously and were grateful for her intervention etc. I've also written to the old school so this info. can be added to the no doubt long file they've got on this other boy. Maybe at some point he'll actually get the help he needs, which I guess is what's important here.

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