So my DS has been doing this since October and is making good progress when I asked in early December . I asked his teacher this morning if she can arrange to give us an update and she said she will get back to me with a time.
However, she commented that while he is still making good progress he “has a low opinion of himself”, and that his play with other children is still a bit too physical and he needs to learn to use his words more (pushing/jostling - he doesn’t hit or do anything nasty, just slightly rough play at times).
This is a shock as we don’t see him playing roughly with other children at all, including those friends outside of school, but the real shock is having a low opinion of himself. As it was at drop off I only had a minute to discuss before other people arrived so I wasn’t able to find out how this is manifesting at school.
He has lots of friends both at and outside of school, he does several activities which he asked to do and enjoys going to. He’s the sort of child who can go to a soft play by himself and he’ll always find another child or two to play with. He appears, to us, to be a confident child and will very rarely say anything negative about himself or his ability to do something. We have always given positive, specific praise.
About a year ago he did something (can’t remember what) and I said “that was a stupid thing to do.” I labelled the behaviour not him, however he insists that I called him stupid and he has never forgotten it and sometimes still brings it up. No matter how much I try I can’t make him understand that I was not calling him stupid etc. I haven’t said this again obviously but I wonder if this is a contributing factor?
Any ideas what the teacher could be seeing to think that “he has a low opinion of himself”? I guess it could be anything. She said she can’t see us next week so it will be at least two weeks away and now I’m worrying.