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Child in Reception and my gut feeling.

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TaniaIvanov · 22/09/2021 14:13

Hello everyone. Hope someone can give me advice. My daughter had recently started Reception and is the only child with parents that are not born in the UK. She is born here and speaks fluent English, did very well in her nursery and had friends.
She is really friendly but unfortunately kids are quite rude, saying they don't want to play with her. My heart breaks when I think about it. It was ok the first week but few days ago someone decided to call her refugee witch she is not. Maybe is my fault because I spoke to some of the mums at drop off/pick up times and shared some personal information like where I am coming from.
My daughter say they're pushing her on the floor so today I got message for an accident - bump on the head :(
Makes me really really sad!
Honestly we are not bad people, never been on benefits, working and trying to stay positive and kind to everyone. Why would you teach children as 4-5years old to hate?

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moonriver199 · 22/09/2021 14:16

then you should consider reporting this to school and potentially changing schools, not all the schools are like that

BooseysMom · 22/09/2021 14:18

@TaniaIvanov, I was so sad and sorry to read about your child's experiences at school. That is really unfair and I think it's best to raise the issue with the school straight away.
Also even if you were on benefits it doesn't automatically mean you are in some way worth less than those who are not claiming.
I hope you get some help from the school and I wish you luck going forward. I hope your daughter is ok.

JuneOsborne · 22/09/2021 14:19

Oh wow, that's not ok at all.

Speak to the school. Start with your daughter's class teacher.

zaffa · 22/09/2021 14:19

Absolutely report and change schools, that's appalling behavior from such young children.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you

mrsbitaly · 22/09/2021 14:21

How awful at this age they are saying these things and you know where it has likely come from don't you... the parents.

My nephew suddenly started developing ticks so he was an outsider and would be mocked and nasty things said my sister spoke to the school and they educated the class and it relieved some of the bullying.

I know your case is different but maybe a chat with the class is what's needed. It is absolutely not on and if it continues I would pull your child out they shouldn't have to deal with that at their age really appalling I feel for you.

TakeMeToYourLiar · 22/09/2021 14:23

Bloody hell, report to the school that's horrendous.

My DS has also just started reception, we live close to a major hospital which has a lot of international staff, as a result his class is incredibly diverse. Besides us I know only 2 other families that only speak English at home.

He doesn't seem to have noticed yet, beyond, "oh Bob can speak English AND French" which he is very impressed by

eddiemairswife · 22/09/2021 14:30

Report it to the school and to the governors. Even if you decide to move school the governing body of your current school need to know what is happening.

RNBrie · 22/09/2021 14:31

Definitely speak to the school - either the class teacher or go to the head. This sounds like bullying to me so take a look at the school's anti bullying policy - it should be published on the school website.

I'm a governor at a primary school and we get bullying incidents reported to us by the head and we take them extremely seriously. I am really sorry to hear that this is happening to your child, it shouldn't be tolerated by anyone.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 22/09/2021 14:38

Talk to the teacher, and listen to what he or she says. Reception age children are generally not prejudiced, and I find it hard to believe an entire class of them are engaged in a racist or xenophobic plot conspiracy against your DC, especially since she was born here and has the same language and accent.

Withhold judgement until you have a clearer idea what is really going on.

Goldbar · 22/09/2021 15:21

This is bullying, report to the school and move schools if they don't nip it in the bud.

As for the being called "refugee", it doesn't matter where you are from or whether you are refugees or on benefits or anything. It really doesn't...all children should be safe, happy and included at school.

I'm sorry your DD is going through this at such a young age. This is the second threat in as many days I've read about very young children being subjected to racism at school. I feel very ashamed of my country reading this.

Wishing you and your DD well .

mulberrybag5 · 22/09/2021 20:14

This is awful. Children 4-5 do not have prejudices. The word “refugee” would not be one typically used in that age group either. I’d report it to the head and move schools if it’s not sorted. I couldn’t imagine this going on at my child’s school.

Bunnycat101 · 22/09/2021 21:26

I would be surprised at that age tbh. I suspect a good portion of the class are completely oblivious. Lots of children come back in reception saying no-one played with them when they did. It may be that there were one or two children that have been unkind or a bit rough and that needs dealing with but I’d be utterly amazed if the whole class were excluding her.

Bobholll · 22/09/2021 21:28

Awful OP. I’m so sorry to hear this. Absolutely not acceptable. Good advice above.

What kinda area do you live in? I wonder if there’s a more diverse school you could consider if things don’t improve ..

Hattie765 · 22/09/2021 21:34

That's awful, you must report it. Are you able to move school? They all sound vile.

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