Violent boy in ds's class. How much violence is acceptable?!

[ipanemagirl]

My ds has a boy in his class who was adopted after a series of family tragedies. He has been in the school for two years but is still pretty violent imo. Children in the class say he hits them or pushes them over if they say they won't play with him. Recently he punched my ds in the face for no reason (the teacher said there was no provocation) He does get punished with the usual timeouts and missed playtimes but it seems to me that his behaviour is not actually being modified enough and that expectations of him are gradually lowering over time given the sheer number of times he lashes out on a a weekly basis. I've spoken to the teacher of course. But it's not acceptable as far as I'm concerned. I feel there should be zero tolerance for any kind of assault. Does my ds need to end up with a serious injury before this is addressed in a way that actually works? I understand the ideal of inclusion but resent my ds being the punchbag for someone else's lovely idea.
I want to use the most effecive language with the school and am always supportive in my approach but honestly, I just don't feel my son is safe in that environment nor that the school can reassure me unless this is tackled properly.

It's a completely unacceptable situation. Raise hell about it.

There is a child in my DS's class with aggressive tendances and was recently diagnosed with Autism. He has been closely monitored by the SENCO team and now has one to one supervision. I would ask the school if they would consider this for the boy in your DS's class. Violence is certainly not acceptable and we should not be putting our kids at risk just by sending them to school! My DS got stabbed in the back with a pencil just before the one to one supervision was arranged. It happened in the classroom as they were lining up to come home. My DS didn't want to tell the teachers because the boy is his friend and he knows he is Autisic and didn't want to get him into any more trouble. I took him back into class with a bleeding wound across his back, which has now scared! The teacher told me he had been punching and kicking other children!

That is awful Lena, it's so bad that it takes that before something is addressed. I feel so upset about it really, the teacher acknowledged to me today that the behaviour policy isn't working for this boy. I'm going to very calmly address it with the school!