If a child said something worrying, or terrible, would you talk to the teacher, or is it none of my business?

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My son (year 1) cuddled up to me today and told me how much he loved me, which of course is nice.
Then he said " "John" hates his mum, and she hates him. He says he wants to kill her. "

I can believe that this boy had said such a thing, I have heard him say that to his mum, when she is insulting him, or smacking him, etc.

There is a concern, I have had a meeting with headmistress about this mums behaviour (she rang me and shouted abuse down the phone regards an issue with our sons in school).

If I were to mention this to the teacher, would I be seen as somebody meddling and bringing "hearsay"?

agree with rhubarb, you have a duty of care to say something

Qs you're doing the right thing.

Forgive me if you've heard this before from me but I always remember a Child Protection officer saying

" Every little piece of info is important even if on it's own it's not much. It all builds up like a puzzle to give us the bigger picture" that made a lot of sense & encouraged me to always share information.

The other little boy is lucky to have you & your son on his side bless him. (& his Mum who obviously needs help)

This isn't really the school's problem - why burden them with it? Report it directly to social services.

OMG. You think so?

That makes my dilemma even bigger. But I suppose it would be up to the SS to know whether the concerns are grave enough to warrant them doing anything?

Yes it would but don't forget the head may also know stuff you don't that will affect the way they support the whole family. It might not be a SS case but needing support. The mother may have bad parenting skills but need support in dealing with her child. I'd go to the head first & see what she says, then if you are still concerned go to the SS.

Sorry to contradict Uber but the school need to know as it may have a bearing on the other childs behaviour/development in class. As turk said it will be confidential.

Agree with bossybritches. If SS become do involved with the child/ family then the Head would be also be contacted surely?

HTs are aware of hte correct procedures to follown.

It is a very unusual situation. She is a single parent. Her husband took out divorce when his parents arranged a wife for him in his native country, turned out they did not know he was married and had a child. But, he wanted to honour his customs and his parents. So this little boy has only his mum, who is also a foreign national. They only have eachother.

Oh dear

Well perhaps they really do need some support the. I really would make an appointment to speak with the HT again.

Poor loves they are having a horrible time of it- yes they do need some help it's probably all too much for her.

is there any update on this? Did you see the head?