Teacher Advice

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Hi All,

Just after some advice - my dc is going into a new class in September and we found her teacher during the last week of term. Frustratingly they have been allocated a teacher they had two years ago, who is moving year group.

This teacher is a nightmare - doesn’t communicate, plays favourites and doesn’t seem to treat all children equally.

Since they announced if all I’ve had from DC is tears and upset. They’re so anxious about September.

Any advice? How do we cope? Should I look for another school?

What is it that DC is particularly upset or worried about?

Maybe an email to the head or head and class teacher to explain the situation and ask for their support to help DC settle when school starts back.

Maybe explain too that you didn’t feel the communication was good enough with the teacher last time and want to make sure that issue is not repeated this year?

We have similar and 1 of only 2 not so good fit teachers so far.
This teacher was when dc was naughtier so they will have bad impression of dc already.
And dc got not met in mathsafter not saying anything beforehand. Dc has met every other year.
Teacher isvery strict and dc is very demand avoidant. Just hope my dc has grown up. I like theteacher but with this dc we have made progress andi dont wantto go back.
As my dc is probably older than yours im just saying you only have the teacher a year so it'll go quickly.

It's a bit tricky to be looking for a new school during the summer holiday- so at the very least I would say give the teacher a go. Raise any lack of communication and upset your DC has. For now treasure your DC your going to have their back, distract them and get on with enjoying the summer.

I have a friend who was in a similar situation- the teacher actually apologised at the start of the year that she hadn't fully understood the DCs needs previously.

Also my DD had a teacher who had taught DS and I'd never warmed to. I thought she'd been too harsh on DS. However it was only when she taught DD I realised she had adored DS and pushed him so much because she wanted the best for him. Because she'd been so fond of DS she also had a soft spot for DD and really listened to me when I explained about DDs difficulties.

Somit might not be all doom
and gloom next year. I'd give it a chance, while keeping an eye on the situation.

Agree you should contact the head, then at least you can tell your DC that you've listened and done something proactive.

There is no way they will change this because your dc don't like the teacher. You need to tell your kids that everyone sometimes has to deal with people they dislike and you expect them to give it their best. Tell them that they are now more mature and they might see things differently and may find they get on really well with the teacher now. I think your reaction to this is important. If there are genuine issues beyond grumbling that the teacher has favourites, you can deal with this at the time.

Grit teeth, see how it goes - ring round to find out which local schools have spaces if it's going to pot would be how I'd play it. We've just stuck out the last year with an absolute "I don't believe in special needs" stinker (who ironically had been SENCO before and had a rep for doing jack shit then) - I wish we'd have moved DD2 sooner but the covid situation made looking for other options harder.

As for the playing favourites - it's something their now ex- school is bloody dreadful for - we started joking among the family about the same names being in the weekly awards week in week out.

@cansu

There is no way they will change this because your dc don't like the teacher. You need to tell your kids that everyone sometimes has to deal with people they dislike and you expect them to give it their best. Tell them that they are now more mature and they might see things differently and may find they get on really well with the teacher now. I think your reaction to this is important. If there are genuine issues beyond grumbling that the teacher has favourites, you can deal with this at the time.

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